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writes:I've been seeing this guy for 2 months and he can't define the relationship at the moment as he has a lot going on in his life now. In the past week I have been getting a bit clingy and mental. It has been pushing him away. so on wednesday night I decided that we both needed some space from each other but didn't state a timeline. anyway, he contacted me last night and asked me how my day was, so I replied and he said he was sorry about the day before's events. I said ok and he text me this morning asking me if I was ok. I'm not sure now if we should continue the space or not? I don't want to start going kooky again but I don't want to lose him. Any advice would be gratefully recieved. Thank you
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 April 2012):
 You decide how long you can live with this uncertainty. Some say 2 months is too soon, some say you are ready when you are ready. The space is for you to reflect why the need to get mental if he can't give you a serious relationship right now. Was it your insecurity, or was it his stupid excuse? He is okay with hanging out with you and having fun, he just doesn't want a label or any kind of promise. If you can handle that you should continue your relationship. You can include him in exploring your feelings together. The only thing he doesn't want is you blaming him for your negative feelings.
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reader, Lucky786 +, writes (6 April 2012):
 I think he is just concerned for you and wants to keep some form of contact. I think you should continue keeping a space between you until you can get to the root of your clinginess and try to find happiness within yourself. I wouldn't push him away totally.
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