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*enriq39
writes:I have have an issue with my boyfriend or x now. We've been dating for almost three years now. I have a daughter and he has a son that recently moved away a year ago. Since his son has been gone he stopped doing family things together kinda like excluding to hang out with my daughter. I have tolerated it enough. I have had concerns whether this relationship is gonna progress or not... He says he loves me a lot and can't live with out me but he doesn't think living together would be a good idea. We have had several break ups because this is what i want....and he thinks we are not ready. He's 33 and I am 25. I think by now you should know if you want to make that progress or not.i am training to be a nurse and he is a teacher at a high school and a collage so financially we'd be ok. Up until a couple weeks ago we had another argument about it again and he said we would end up living together and so on....He had been feeling sick for some time now got some blood work done and he was told that his blood work had not been to positive so he said that he had to wait to see what the doctor said and to see if he was healthy enough to make the next step which i think he just flipped it on me.....I am not saying i wasn't concerned because i was and i knew if it was bad I'd have to wait.So turns out he is Diabetic and now has to make drastic changes and he told me we can't move in together now..... well I ask myself what was the excuse then? here is another excuse and I have been so supportive of his sickness and trying to be there for him. i would go the extent to comfort him and be there. I got him books to read about the disease. Offered to help with his meal plan. I even started eating like him to be supportive. Which is healthy foods and cutting out sugars. The doctor told him that things were gonna get worst... I know it is difficult to deal with this. These first two weeks were tough on us and i stayed one night over with my daughter to help him relax because he needed comfort and then he started acting moody and distant with me cos my daughter was around and I've had it! I know he's not well but he can't continue to act this way... if he can't pull off one day what makes me think he can manage more than what i'd like.... I know it sounds like I am putting pressure on the guy but i don't think so we've grown a lot and been there for each other through a lot of things. I think i just finally stood up for my wants and said if your not gonna give me what i want then i am sure someone else will. maybe not so soon. but eventually I'll find someone with same interest to build a home and family. I feel like an a*hole for leaving him being sick and all but I offered to be there for the long haul. I am tired of settling for the "not now". Plus he was the one who said that we should get engaged after the first year. 3years later.......... He took it all back and I am not gonna stick around. so i think i did right. idk
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reader, girl from bristol  +, writes (3 February 2010):
yes you did do right he is messing you around why say lets move in together then he changes his mind same with the marriage thing why cant you live with somewhone when you have diabities that is a excuse maybe he just doesent really want commitment
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