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writes:I am still in love with my ex after 5 years. Is this normal?He still has feelings for me because he has been trying to get back together with me for the past 2 years.Do normal peoples lives work like this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2006): Dear Suzie767, I am going through the same ordeal which lead me to go on the internet, do a search on this question, and to find that someone else in this world is going through this. I had been with my ex for 10 yrs. but it was def. an emotional rollercoaster. I noticed that he brought out the ugly in me and knew that I didn't want to go through life being unhappy. However, on the flip side, I still long for him at times and dream about him - and when I do see him, I get these knots in my stomach which lead me to believe that I still am in love with him. I have been with someone for 2 yrs. now and know that he is everything I ever wanted in a person - but he doesn't bring out that passion that I had once had with my ex. My answer is that I don't think you ever stop loving him. And the loves you have will always be different from eachother. I sometimes fantasize about taking a step back w/o hurting my current relationship, and then maybe answer the "whatif" question and then see where the road takes me. But, we know that you can't have your cake and eat it to. If you're not currently in a serious relationship then you should go for it and see if it works, I would. I know that deep in my heart that my ex isn't right even if I want it to work (it didn't work for 10 yrs so why would it work) - so I just move on with mentally choosing what is good for me now and what I envision for myself and my future. -Destined for happiness
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2006): Love is a powerful thing, so yes, I believe that people can remain in love for many years after a breakup...some folks take a lifetime to get over each other. It just depends on the two people, the circumstances and how the initial break up came about. Do what makes you the happiest, hun and if having this man back in your life is what does it...then you go for it. Best wishes to both of you and good luck.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (8 April 2006):
 well i believe you if you love someone whole heartedly then you never really get over them, the love you feel will stay with you forever.
i agree with kelly o if you and your ex still love each other then go for it. try again
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reader, kellyO +, writes (7 April 2006):
 Hi Suzie767, personally i feel it does happen. The feelings and attractions u have for a person can last longer i guess that is why some couples stay together for many years some off and on in marriages and relaionships.
If u are still in love with him and u think he is worth giving another chance then go ahead. Consider all the reasons for the initial split and if they are differences that can be patched up and worked on then i guess it is ok to give it another go.
Goodluck dear
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