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writes:I am in college and I have fallen in love with my best friend. I met him when I first started college. I really liked him and we casually dated for a month or so. All of a sudden he freaked out, so I immediately stopped contact with him, although it was rather hard since he was my next door neighbor. Even though we had only dated for one month, I liked him very, very much. I eventually found another man three months later that I began dating, thinking that I completely had gotten over my first college date. Dating the second one lasted for five months. During these five months, my first date and I became best friends. We shared everything with each other and told each other everything as well. We then began hooking up again, simply as friends with benefits. I promised myself that I would have no feeling for him again. However, once time ran on, I began to feel the sparks all over again. He had another girl in the picture but nothing too serious. Now, he no longer talks to me about other girls (he used to, even during our hooking up, all the time). He only talks about me. We tell each other that we love each other every day and our relationship is still very physical. He often tells me that he loves me first when we are ending conversations. He is away for the summer and tells me that he misses me all the time. However, he never acts jealous anything. It is so hard to read him. I know that he loves and cares for me so much as a person because he tells me all the time. He also loves the physical relationship that we have. And now I have fallen in love with him. I am scared of what he feels, if it may turn out to be different than what I am feeling. But I am in love with him and I do not know what to do. Would love some advice or opinions. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsorry, I don't think I made myself clear. He did break up with his girlfriend. The only person he is seeing as of now is me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2011): It sounds from what he says that he thinks an awful lot of you.
If he has stopped talking about other girls, it could be that you are the only one or that he is not telling you who else he is seeing. It may be worth asking now what kind of a relationship he sees it as: friends, friends with benefits, a full love relationship... and whether he has any hopes for the future. It could be that he has the same questions in his mind as you do, or others he is wondering about.
As to jealousy, he may not be the jealous type, or he may simply trust you.
It sounds very nice what you have got, so I hope it works out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2011): If he felt the same way about you or felt your FWB was leading to something more, he would have stopped seeing his girlfriend and made sure he wouldn't lose you to other guys. I think he enjoys your company but is content with the status quo. Guys aren't really that complicated and no matter what you think he feels, he is still with his girlfriend and you are second to what he feels for her. Is that enough? I wouldn't think so.
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