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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have done so much for my daughter's father and I'm getting the end of the stick. I still care for him however, he's with another woman who I know he will do the same thing to her (cheat, use her, live in babysitter, pay his bills, etc). I am so upset with him about what he's put our daughter and I thru. His verbal abuse, his criticism about my weight (just had baby), wondering where I am, following me (admitted to it later when the incidents occurred) thinking I cheated on him when he's the one doing it, etc. My daughter doesn't need to be in a negative environment of where verbal abuse, lies, cheat, etc. is accepted. Don't forget, firearms. My daughter will not be in an environment of where this is okay. NEVER!! I am really nervous about court because I am really shy being around people I don't know especially, other people knowing my business. We live in a really small town. Another thing, he wants me to take a Polygraph. He's going to get himself in trouble because he's the one lying. Do Child Custody cases accept this?For those who are reading this, please pray for me.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 Polygraph tests do not have any role in child custody cases (except where it is suspected a criminal offence has taken place involving the child). Your shyness needs to come second to the rights of your child. Don't waste your energy on what this man is doing with another woman - she will find out soon enough and frankly it diverts attention from the real issue here...protecting your daughter. If he doesn't pay child maintainence money take him to court - a lawyer can guide you through the process. If he wants access to the child and you feel the home residence is unsuitable then you can request supervised visitation by the courts at a family centre or relatives address.
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (29 May 2007):
 How and what he does with other women now should not be any of your concern. Your main focus should be your child and yourself along with your impending future.
Your rught your daughter doesnt need that kind of environment while she is growing up, she needs a stable home with a parent who can support her emotionally and financially.
Personally i dont think he will have a leg to stand on but i am no lawyer, but the things you mention about his character and his way of life seem to me not a suitable environment to bring up a child. The gun thing from my perspective is totally wrong and i will only say that i hope you get custody of the child for the pure reason of that childs safety.
You need to keep strong at times like these, we all have an inner strength we can draw on so use this to get you through the coming days/weeks/months. If he is the person you say he is then the polygraph test will prove all of your statments i can only see the verdict going one way, to you.
I wish you all the best for your future and your daughters and my thoughts will be with you.
R
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reader, DV1 +, writes (28 May 2007):
 Take a polygraph and a drug test, and have proof to back your statements. Don't speak out of turn with the judge, and everything will go fine.
DV1
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