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writes:Hi,I am a 14 year old boy and I have fallen in love with a close friend, C. I think about him ALL the time! He is handsome, playful and really fun to be with. He says he has never loved anyone and doesn't like talking about anything like that, making me think he could be gay too because he seems like he is hiding his sexuality. I haven't come out to anyone except my best friend J, who is also gay. Should I just come out to him, or tell him that I love him as well? I don't want to ruin our friendship.ThanksJames
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reader, Ilovebiz +, writes (3 August 2008):
Ilovebiz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi,
The problem is that I can never talk to C on his own, partly because it is impossible at school. Another reason is, because J and I are really close friends and we live really close to each other, we do everything together. This makes me feel like I have to invite J around as well, or else may seem strange to C. Also, J keeps saying that C is also his friend and so he doesn't want to be excluded from anything. J is not at all understanding about my situation and so I do not want his help. I don't want to tell C by text message or anything like that because it is so impersonal.
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James
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): I know that you wanted to come out to C but J is the only other person who knows that you are gay - with him being as well he might be able to help you?
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reader, Ilovebiz +, writes (3 August 2008):
Ilovebiz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi,Thanks for answering. I have just realised that I haven't made the question clear enough.What I meant was, should I just come out to C (not J), or tell him that I love him as well. Sorry about that!Thanks for answering!James
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): Maybe you should talk to J about what he thinks. If you think hes understanding then you can tell him but some people do get freaked out by that kind of stuff.If you were going to tell him - which is possibly the best thing because keeping things bottled up is so damn painful - then I think you should explain to him while although you love him, you understand and respect that some things might never happen. Because you do have to except these things...Sorry I can't be of more help...
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