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*apulet
writes:I am in love with my best friend and she is married. I feel so bad about it, but I can't ignore my feelings anymore. It seems like the more we hang out, the more I want to be with her. I have slept with a total of 43 girls (2 of which I was in a long term, loving relationship with) in my life and I am 30 years old now. I know thats kinda sick on my part...but I have NEVER felt such a powerful attraction to a woman before! When I am around her, I am happy. This is the girl that I have been searching for. She has been married for a few years and I am sure she loves her husband. I don't know for sure if she feels the same way I do, but I find myself wanting to know more and more each day. I have never really had a woman that I actually considered a friend. She is the first girl I actually enjoy hangin out with. It's like I want to hang out with her and sex isn't one of the factors. I feel bad for thinking this, but inside I wish she was mine. I don't know what to do. Should I stop being her friend? Should I tell her how I feel? Should I wait and see if she says something to me? Should I just wait and not say anything? Should I try to kiss her next time we have a moment? What if she tries to kiss me? I feel like she spends more time with me than with her husband. She is constantly telling me how much we are alike. I know when a girl is flurting with me...and this is definately the case. This feels llike true love, should I take a chance? Please help, I don't know what to do.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 December 2009):
 Zowie how'd I miss this post? It's great! Oh and good luck with that conquering there, Mr Rock Star.
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reader, Capulet +, writes (2 December 2009):
Capulet is verified as being by the original poster of the question Sorry guys...I have slept with so many women and I know this is the one. Its different this time. I am going for it. And if her husband wants to come after me...let him come. I am not afraid of him. I want to be happy and the only way for that is to have her. She is not happy with him and she is the type of girl that needs another rock to jump on before she leaps from the one she is on. And yes...I realize that how you find them is how you loose them. If I could be in love with this girl for one day...it would be worth it. Seems like the people that are bashing me are either married...or pathetic in the sense that they can't find someone.
I have lived a great life so far. I have slept with 44 women. I am not proud of all of them...but most. In nature...I am what you call "survival of the fitest! I am like a f*cking rockstar! And whats sad is that I am getting bashed here because I am good at getting laid. But women f*ck with men all the time. They are the ones that have the power...and there are some evil women in the world. The places that you squares live in can't compare to what I go through.
And to be honest...I dont want a girl that is nice and wholesome. I want to conquer a women that is just like me. Thats what my definition of love is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): perhaps time for the mods to realise this is a fake post and end this thread.
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reader, Capulet +, writes (16 November 2009):
Capulet is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd everyone that supplied a response telling me to back off. Well...just want you all to know that we slept together tonight. And it wasn't as good as I thought it was going to be. I am up to 44 now and still searching for the one. I dont give a damn about her husband, or her vows. And to tell you the truth, I will kick her husband's a__, so I am not too worried about that anyways.
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reader, Capulet +, writes (16 November 2009):
Capulet is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah...I am going to leave it alone. It was just a dream I once had.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): "I can't ignore my feelings anymore."
Any REAL man can. So do just that, and leave her alone.
You've bedded 43 women, you'll have no trouble bedding more.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (15 November 2009):
 Go ahead and tell her. Then have a full blown affair. Watch how fun its going to be when you are eating out of a straw after her husband finds out and puts the boots to you.Hope you like soup!!Then revel in the drama after you recover just how much of a bad mood the woman of your dreams is going to be in all the time she has a court date for the nasty divorce that is sure to ensue. You think after the nastiness going back and forth all day between her and her soon to be ex, that she is gonna feel like dressing up ion high heels and fishnets and playing doctor?You'll be amazed at all the fun you have when you realize that now YOU are the man and you cant go out and just sow your oats. Obviously after sacrificing so much for love, you will end your batting streak at 44??? I mean you love her right? 44....44....44....44....44...44But thats not all.. you will feel the exhilaration of you newfound life when family functions happen around the holidays when you will have to see that Ex Husband who beat you within an inch of your life. Boy Id love to be a fly on the wall at your first THANKSGIVING!!!Plus the added benefit that since you told her just how much she means to you, and left her husband for you that this will give you the added benefit of making sure every waking moment you are doing all those little things to show her every day, even when you don't feel like it to show her she made the right choice by accepting your invitation to everlasting love.Because there will be a time when you don't like the way she smiles at somebody. Or she may be flirty with someone else and you wont be able to stand it and you demand it stop, because you slept with 43 women, damnit...43 women!! And by god you stopped the press when you made her 44 and by god she better respect that!Then the night will come when you lie awake at night after a big blowout and she doesn't come home, or tells you "he is just a friend". Yet you will know its not true...because after all young man, she left her man for you...so she will be capable of leaving YOU!And you will be wishing this whole thing never happened and you could take back every word you said to her in the first place because its not worth it...but you cant. So go right ahead. We will be here when you post this time next year wondering why you ever opened your mouth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): Forbidden fruit. Grass is always greener. Leave this piece of grass/fruit alone. There is a lot more out there and you've had plenty of your own already.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (14 November 2009):
 oi, she is married,she signed a contract in law and I am going to presume she was married in a church, which means she also made a promise before God.now you seem to be wanting to help her break that promise and break that contract.You say she is your best friend, but hey, guess what, wanting to split her marriage up the way you are shows that despite her being your friend you are not being much of a friend to herback off, grow up, go find your own girl, this one is out of bounds!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (14 November 2009):
 Dude! I doubt that you will get much sympathy here. Most of the advisors are likely to consider you a cad. Look it up. But we'll see what reaction you receive from your posting. Try becoming an honorable man for a change.
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reader, generalist  +, writes (14 November 2009):
as you said u already had sleft with 40 odd girls...wow thats a huge number man,see the problem is after knowing so many girls sexually u just need somebody who wants to be with you beyond some sexual reasons...the feeling which you are going through is quite but obvious because you are not married ...so follow below points 1...Dont express your feelings to your friend otherwise she will run away...and if at all u express and if at all she says yes then it will create lot complications in her life which you ,i am sure,wont want...as u said you r her best friend in a real sense....2..The gal population of your city must be huge and especially considering your hit ratio with sex (wink wink..)with so many girls ( man how do u managed it?....give me some tips)i am sure you will find a girl you can think long term with ....see the real problem is the only girl you respect as a woman is your best friend where as with previous most of the girls your point of view had been more of a sex body rather than somebody who would go beyond just sex...believe me you had enough of sex ,now start thing about a life partner ..and yaap,also,stop thinking about your best friend,...she is happily settled and you are not helping your best friend any ways by doing or thinking all this to her..come on cheer up...
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