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*hordee2605
writes:About a month ago I posted a question about trying to fix my relationship. I was having a hard time fixing it by myself and he was putting forth no effort and I left him (changed my number, blocked him from internet communications). He would show up to my house... make up new sites to contact me, would be up all night calling my house.. everything he could possibly do, he did. I took him back thinking he would put honest effort into our relationship. I never saw a guy cry so much, not eat and be up all hours of the night over me.. While we were broken up I sold the vip shinedown concert tickets i had bought him for his birthday (whether it was right or wrong, i was fed up with everything).. we were back together and he bent over backwards for us and everything seemed perfect... after a week, it came up in a text message conversation the the tickets had been sold.... he told me he hated me and was only begging to get back together for the concert and was plannin on leaving me the day after the show... i havent heard from him since and its been 8 days now... i try to make contact and talk to him but he tells me he hates me and insults me in every way possible...and he is now on the MATCH dating site... hes admitted to me in the past that he is spiteful and has a problem of saying things just to hurt someone... i dont know how to feel... my feelings were/ are real towards him and hes so angry with me..why? can a guy really lose sleep, cry like a baby, not eat and go out of his way just for concert tickets? he was just telling me the night before he left me how much he loves me and thinks im the one and he really seemed to be trying... any input? is it false hopes to think that he will come back or what? can a guy really go from having a break down over losing me to hating me and not wanting anything to do with me? i even tried to talk to him when i went to his house a few days ago to get my things. he wouldnt look at me, threw my stuff at me and called me some names and slammed the door in my face... Im hurting so bad and he doesnt seem to care at all... all he shows is anger..
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 February 2010):
 This man is a crybaby, an idiot or a liar. Perhaps all three. Honestly, you are wasting time trying to analyze him. He sincerely is not worth your effort.
Your feelings may be real and sincere, but he's a mess. I would worry for you that you spend so much time trying to fix a relationship with a man who appears to function with the emotional stability of a very immature, very young and selfish teenager. (Apologies to mature teenagers.) At best, he's a spoiled brat; at worst, he's got some sort of personality disorder. Either way, it sounds as though it's over to me.
Unless you truly love drama and enjoy having a rollercoaster relationship, I would start the process of moving on from him. And don't do anything dramatic, just let things fizzle out.
Good luck.
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