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writes: im getting married in a year, its a destination wedding, im scared to tell my aunts and uncles because we are so close and may not be able to afford to go.i have mentioned about a year ago that i wanted a wedding in the carribean and they blew up at me. my soon to be husbands family is very supportive and exited about the wedding. why cant my family be the same way. always critisizing me about what i want for my dream day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2006): My parents got a traditional white gown, black suit wedding here in Canada, then went back to Hong Kong to get their native red dress, black suit Chinese style wedding.
OR, like Ms. Anon on the bottom said, you can have a party when you get back home.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2006): If you want a big do abroad with all your family around you then go ahead but be prepared to pay for them. Sure it's your day but there has to be a limit on what you can expect of people. Do they have that kind of money?? and please bear in mind that a wedding is just one day but a marriage is meant to be a lifetime.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2006): Hey,
Congratulations first on the wedding! If it is your dream to get married in the Carribbean, then go for it. Maybe though, in order to save others feelings, keep it low key by inviting just immediate family and when you return, have a wedding reception party a few weeks later with all your friends and family. My brother and his wife got married in Africa and none of us could afford to go. So my parents had an outdoor bbq for them at our house a few months later, a pretty big affair, about 160 people. Everyone wore casual clothes and there were some games organized for the kids. It was like a big family reunion. They were able to celebrate their day again with more people this time and even though it was best wishes only, everyone ignored it and gave them some really nice gifts. It was like a second wedding day for them.
Best of luck with your decision. Whatever you choose, stick with it and don't have any regrets.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (9 October 2006):
 Your family is probably reacting this way because they know they won't be able to attend because it is too expensive. But you must have known that from the beginning. I know I would rather get married somewhere so that my family could attend but that's just me. If you don't really care to have them there then go ahead with your destination wedding.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2006): How about having a party after the event, when you get back home? I know a few people now who have gone abroad to get married, and so only a small part of the family, if any have been able to attend, but then they have a big party to celebrate and invite all family and friends then?
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reader, Katylouise +, writes (9 October 2006):
It is your day and you should be able to have exactly what you want. It must be really hard that your family arnt totally behing you. You need to gather your family together and tell them just how much this means to you and you want to go abroad as its how you imagine your perfect day. Family should always stick together so in time they should come round to the idea. I myself would love to get married abroad it just seems more exciting and makesit even more memorable!
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