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writes: I have been married for 18 years to truly wonderful man, and soulmate. Last fall, I traveled to another state for unpleasant family business, and met "Mark", the neighborhood lawn care guy, who offered to help in anyway. And he was a big help with things that I couldn't take care of out of town. I flew back for a one day trip and Mark pick me up at the airport, drove me around all day to bo business and back to the airport. He treated me like a rockstar. It had been a long time since I had been flirted with, and I loved it. Phone calls came after that for months. Mark said, clearly, that he enjoyed our day, that he wanted to see me again, and spend time alone with me, without my family. I was really enjoying the attention. I made arrangments for the final family business trip, and told Mark the dates and that I'd be in his town an extra day. By myself.I honestly didn't want to act on my "crush', inspite of enjoying the attention. . When we all arrived, his flirting actions were unmistakable, intense eye contact, standing shoulder to shoulder, hair tugging etc. but as my final day approached, he got colder. We made a date for dinner on my last evening. Again, I was not going to let things get physical,( if I were single, I would have wanted to) I even reheased how to do this, but, he was so cold at dinner, complained the whole time about money, and only ate half of his meal, didn't give me a chance to say much.... I didn't even need to worry about getting physical. Even though the clues were there earlier. The problem is, I feel like I've been totally dumped, even though nothing happened. I feel sick to my stomach and can't get this gut out of my mind. I know time will help. But I want to call and ask what happened.Mark and I are very very different, from 2 diffeent worlds. and I cherish my husband, and my life with my husband. But I haven't had this kind of physical attraction for someone other than my husband.I have had little crushes before, very little, and one way and they were over in no time. This one is eating me up inside. I guess my question is, do I call? Just let time go by?? He knows I'm not going back to his town again.
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reader, buford +, writes (22 June 2006):
buford is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Shania and Irish49! I not only feel better but am more glad he didn't try anything that I wouldn't have been able to stop. By that I mean, I'm glad he didn't force himself on me. I have a clearer head except for the bruised ego. That's the part I was enjoying, he is 8 years younger than me and good looking.
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reader, shania  +, writes (22 June 2006):
 I totally agree with Irish49....This guy was setting a trap to bed you and nothing else so when he realised that you wasn't going to do that...he acted like a spoilt child..not getting his way.All this eye contact...hair touching thing was to make you melt at his feet...with a meal thrown in for good measure...but it didn't work.Its obvious that you love your husband and thats why you didn't succumb to this man's charms.People who fall in love and get married doesn't make them immune to physical attraction to other people that come their way...we are all human after all but at the end of the day you have a husband who loves you very much...so dont waste it on that lawn man who only wanted sex and nothing more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2006): Leave him alone..time will heal your hurt. Hun, you were wined, dined and duped. I think Mark had much more planned for you other than intense flirting and sharing a few jokes. For him to go cold as you neared the end of your visit-it's plainly obvious he had figured out..that you weren't going to just swoon and fall into the sack with him. Don't give this guy another thought. He was setting you up. From now on when men decide to flirt with you..drop the ego massage and work hard to always, remember the love, committment and devotion of what you have at home. Your husband and family. I wish you well and good luck. Now go hug that husband of yours.
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