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writes:I am currently dating a guy 8 years my senior. I truly care about him and he has helped me through a lot of rough spots. However I fear that I am holding him back. He is 27, owns a house, has a good job, and is begining to think about starting a family, whereas I am 19, have one year left of college, and then want to focus on starting a career not a family just yet. So I don't know if we should just keep going considering the fact we're in such different places in our lives. I do care about him greatly and want him to be happy, i'm just unsure if our age gap is standing in the way of that happening.
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reader, suz001  +, writes (5 June 2007):
If you truly love him and if he truly loves you, you will have to find a way to compromise.
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reader, floraltemptaions  +, writes (4 June 2007):
I have to tell you my happy story, but in the end, you and your bf have to decide what is best for you as a couple in the end. I was 19 when I first started dating my fiancee, who at that time was 30. He was young, and fun and the life of the party yet. Now I am 25, and he is 36, and life is all good. We are engaged to be married, and both want children right away. We've been living together for 3 years now, both got our 'partying times' out of our systems, and are deeply in love. And, like Misty Rain, his mom didn't like me much in the begining either, but now she loves me, and is just happy that her lil boy is happy (and gonna give her grand-babies!) Talk to him and figure out what's best for you both... then work it out.
Best of luck!
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reader, Misty_Rain +, writes (4 June 2007):
 I dated someone that was 13 years older than I...and I am 23 years old. It seemed great at first. He had two kids already and was a widow. I had such strong feelings for him, and loved his two sons. We were a perfect "family". But being so young, cause I was only 19...his ex-mother in law didn't like me because I was so young. People gave us dirty looks like he was a pedafile. So he called it off. I wanted kids of my own and he didn't want anymore. It's hard, but if he loved you...than he would let you finish school and start your career first and then start a family. Just talk to him, maybe he will understand. And if not, maybe it's for the better.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (3 June 2007):
 If he really loves you, he should be willing to wait a while. This should especially the case if he really sees you as the eventual mother of his kids. If you let him know that you would at least consider kids with him in a few years, he might not be worried about it...
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