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writes:I am in need of some advise.I am confused and dont know whether i am just a worry wort or a comitment phobic? My boyf and I were together 4 years before i broke it off for one year. I didn't feel our relationship was going anywhere, and felt we needed a break. We got back together 4 months ago, and have recently signed up for a place together (1 year on the lease). I should be excited, but truth is, i am panicking as to whether or not i am doing the right thing. Since getting back together, he has been trying his best to make things work out between us, however, i am just not feeling a spark other than friendship between us. I want to give it time to see whether or not something will grow again, however our sex life is non-existant, as i just can not seem to get myself interested when whe are together.Today i found out a man whom i have had a crush on for two years (but never ever persued, due to being shy) likes me. The truth is, when i found out, my heart sank, i felt gutted that i didnt have the chance to pursue this opportunity. Feeling this way made me feel aweful to my current boyfriend, as i should be feeling flattered, then thankful that i have such a kind and caring boyfriend who is now making the effort that i always wanted in our relationship. Please help me, i dont know whether or not i should move in with him and wait and see, or whether i should end it now and just be single again. Thank you.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (25 February 2009):
 If you like the other guy then don't move in with your boyfriend. Why don't you talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel? And agree that if you move in together and break up that you can still live as friends. You need to communicate with him and get the feelings out in the open. He sounds like a good boyfriend and you are lucky to have him so the least he deserves is your respect! X
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