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writes:Well, the title says it. I am basically the equivalent of a 32AA bra size, and even then my bras tend to slide around because nothing fills them up. I've always been a slim build and then recently put on some weight and I now weigh a comfortable 125 lb at 5'3 yet my breasts will not grow. Breast implants are also an unrealistic solution to my problem, as I cannot afford them.On the surface, I try not to let my lack of womanly figure bother me, but it does. And even when I start to not think about it and get some confidence back, something will happen that will remind me and I feel bad all over again. I spent $50 ordering a 32A-size bikini from a website that claimed to have push-up padding - it was absolutely adorable and I was so excited to get it, I just couldn't wait to try it on. It arrives and I run to the bathroom to try it on, only for it to gap out off my chest and look completely stupid. I've been crying ever since. I want to feel beautiful in my own skin but my self-esteem is suffering from my lack of breasts. I get on my family's nerves... My boyfriend even tells me I'm beautiful and that people would kill to have my body, but I can't believe or accept his compliments and he's even disappointed in me now for being so down on myself over "nothing."I feel awful about myself because my breasts are virtually nonexistent: this is me admitting I have a problem. What can I do to stop feeling this way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2013): I think what everyone else has said pretty ch covers this pretty well, but shrodingerscat made an excellent point that building yourself as a person in other areas will help, get into other things to develop yourself from as a whole, rather than just one body part.
Also, have you tried using a bronzer in the cleavage area? This is what they always do for models in shoots or always airbrush it in to make the cleavage area more defined, if you look up and airbrush before/after shots on google you will find this! I often apply a subtle bit of bronzer in the cleavage area (maybe youtube makeup lips can show you the best method?) and i find it does make a difference.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2013): Well...I'm shaped like a pear. Small on top and ( 34-a or small b) and bigger on the bottom. I just lost 13 lbs so i can look somewhat proportioned. I also feel insecure sometimes. You really do have to find things that you love about yourself. I love my butt and love the fact that i'm tall with long legs. Everyone wishes that they can change things about their body or even personality... My boyfriend calls me "hot." I never really considered myself being called that lol. It's all about acceptance within yourself. How you carry yourself. Feeling good comes from within and shows on the outside. I know for a fact that his ex wife had big boobs. She's ehhh.. Okay looking. I think it's funny how he talks about bigger breasted women having "boob sweat" ha! I hear my friends complaining about how their backs hurt from all of the weight. I also know someone that got her breasts reduced because of the pain she was feeling. There are stores that sell a good fitting bra that will create clevege for everyone. I find this helps me feel more confident :) good luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2013): Almost every woman, no matter her size of breasts feels exactly the same- everyone has body hang ups, I have 'big' boobs but after 2 pregnancies I'm very self conscious about them, & how much they 'droop' I'm slim but covered in stretch marks (something which you can't do anything about). I was bullied or years about my teeth, and I hate my broken nose, with all this you wouldn't think I'd won beauty contests & been offered modelling jobs, would you? & I do have days when these things really depress me & I can't stand to look in the mirror. My point is, most women, whatever the shape, have major hang ups too. I don't think you'd ever meet a woman who thinks she has the perfect body or face.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (16 June 2013):
 A lot of my self confidence has come from my change in appearance. I needed ppls validation to feel good about myself. A weakness in my personality but now that I hv confidence in my looks iv got a huge shield around me now so big I dont care wat anyone says! As long as I feel I look good thats wat matters. My advice is this: Do watever is necessary to gain confidence in ur looks. Itll help u in other areas of life too. Surgery bras alternative enlargement method. You need to find a way to get ur confidence up there. Good luck.
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (16 June 2013):
 I can understand you being sad about this. But there are two things you have to remember...First, there's nothing you can do about it. Second, there are bigger more depressing things to worry about in life than something like this. On the scheme of things, it's not such a bad thing. You're alive. You don't have cancer. You might have a family and relatives who love you. And we all have to die some day. So, who cares? No-one can take their perfect body with them to the grave. We all have to grow old and die. I don't know if any of this makes sense but the bottom line is there are worse things that can happen to a person than what you have described...Adios.
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reader, djacks007 +, writes (16 June 2013):
My wife is a 36c and I would gladly trade hers for yours anyday. dont know what your other measurements are but trust me. Boobs are greatly over rated. Of course I'm a butt man but I think everything over a mouthfull is a waste,Bigger boobs look good in a bikini but cleavage is everything when your up top. Wear a nice pushup bra and watch the heads turn. and thank God when you get older your boobs wont be watching you walk. I believe just a small majority of men actually like to have a woman with larger breast. Sop dont waste money on larger breast just invest in some nice bras, And trust me you'll be spending more time saying "Eyes up Here"
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2013): Some of the most beautiful actresses of our time are very small breasted - Keira Knightly, Natalie Portman, Rachel McAdams, Mila Kunis, Kate Hudson, to name just a few.
But I can understand how difficult it is to feel bad about one's body - especially in today's climate.
Try googling "fenugreek tea for natural breast enlargement" as well as "Chinese breast massage for enlargement." There are natural alternatives that when consistently applied can make your breasts larger - certainly a better option than inserting 2 bags into your chest!
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reader, LaceratedReality  +, writes (16 June 2013):
A bad fitting bra can cause any woman of any breast size to lose confidence.
Are you sure that you are actually a 32AA or is that just the smallest you have come accross in-store?
There are companies that make smaller sized bras and actually specialise in them. Have you tried The Little Bra Company? It is a website that specialises in smaller sized bras and make bras all the way down to 28A.
You just need to find a bra that actually fits well, and you will feel a lot more confident.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2013): Just think about all the runway models who are just as flat chested! theres nothing wrong with having small breasts. you should take your boyfriend's opinion to heart. Having a lack of breasts does not make you less attractive. its not worth ruining your esteem over two lumps of fat society deemed neccessary to look and feel sexy/beautiful! you are beautiful! even your boyfriend knows this and so should you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2013): I'm 25, 5'7 and have seen bigger breasts than mine on 12-year-old boys...And I LOVE my body.I went through a phase like the one you seem to be in when I was a teenager and EVERYWHERE I looked, the media glorified large breasts as an ideal. Now that I'm older, I recognize that this is just as much a load of crap as everything else that's on TV these days.Are you really going to measure your self-worth in terms of two fatty tissue deposits on your upper rib cage? Is it worth hating yourself over, feeling inadequate, and pushing away a partner who loves you for exactly who you are? Heck no, so why are you doing it?I don't have a quick fix for you in terms of changing your thought process. For me it was just something I sort of realized. I am actually embarrassed that at one point I bought into feeling inadequate because of the way Nature made me. I hope one day you'll look back on this period with the same feeling, because you're beautiful.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (16 June 2013):
 It is really difficult for women these days to realize their own intrinsic human value because the media is very good at constantly reminding us that we're never really good enough, and if we buy this product we'll become better looking and therefore more worthy.One of the things you must accept is that you have been brainwashed by our culture to put stock in the idea that the way you look is how valuable you are as a person. --That is a lie--, perpetuated by a society that runs on capitalism, the Almighty Dollar. It trains poor self-esteem into us at a very young age in order for their businesses to be profitable on our negative self-image and perpetual treadmill of outward self-improvement.You must train yourself to find your self-esteem elsewhere. I suggest volunteering at a pet shelter, a soup kitchen or a Habitat For Humanity build project. Get involved in your community and better it with your generous sacrifice of time. Find beauty in helping others, and allow your natural instinct to be altruistic reach out to help those less fortunate than you.If you do this, you will slowly realize that the Patriarchal culture we have to muddle through cannot tell you who you are or how worthy you are as a human being. You will realize that your outside appearance in no way affects the very basic human right you have to be respected and treated with dignity. You will find your self-worth on your own, eventually, and even though you may struggle sometimes with the notion that you have to be perfect on the outside to be loved, you will know in your heart that you will be loved because you are YOU, not what you look like on the outside, but your spirit and kindness, your soul, emotions, dreams and goals. You are so much more than your appearance, and eventually if you find ways to realize your intrinsic self-worth, you'll stop worrying so much about your breasts and realize that you don't need breasts to be a worthy and valued human being.God bless.
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reader, lenahbridge  +, writes (16 June 2013):
Think of all the flat chested celebrities who are still beautiful to everyone - Kiera Knightly, Kate middleton, Natalie portman, taylor swift, emma watson... There are countless, and they are all seen as sexy and beautiful! Women come in every shape, I know a few people who want smaller boobs, me included. Where I live all the girls go topless on the beach, and I find that smaller boobs always look better to me, nice and pert! I'd never go topless as I think my boobs are too big for them to be out. Having said that, I accept it and I'm confident enough for partners to see. The fact is that no one is perfect - and what is the perfect body anyway?Your boyfriend says you are beautiful. Listen to him.
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reader, xedep +, writes (16 June 2013):
 I know how you feel, I hate admitting this but one of my breasts is a size smaller than the other and I always ALWAYS get self concious that somebody might notice,and It got to the stage once where I wouldn't let my boy friend at the time touch me there because I thought me might find out and laugh. You have to remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and your boyfriend and family obviously think that you are stunning, instead of thinking of the negatives of your body you should think about the posotives, so yes you may have small breasts but it sounds like you have a slim figure which TONNES of girls would like, its easier said than done but like me with my breast issue I learnt to laugh it off and say that whoever I get with can now have a choice between large and small :D Remember that YOU ARE.BEAUTIFUL in your own way and that nobody including yourself should say any different. Hope this helped.
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