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writes:hii dont know what it is but when im around a proper nice girl i fall to pieces, by that i mean; i was with my mates and these two girls, i never spoke to them before, but my mates went and asked one if i could have her number. at this point i went proper embarrassed and acted as if i didnt want it. she then asked if i wanted it and because my mates were there i said no regrettably. im always like this, i put my self down and it gets to me when i see lots of other poeple who are confident enough to go and ask things or who get all the girls.im always like it, turning something down and let it play on my mind for days. and i dont know what to do about it :(
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reader, Blod +, writes (1 November 2010):
 It's because you don't have enough confidence in yourself. So firstly, don't worry because this is common. It's not nice though, but you will get over it eventually.
One of the best ways to feel more confident is to act it. If you can fool those around you, then you'll start believing it yourself. Next time you see a girl you like, don' think "she's nice, but she wouldn't be interested in me." Try "she's nice, and even if she's not interested in me I might as well give it a shot."
It doesn't matter if you miss a chance, there are always plenty of other girl. I'd also suggest that you don't put so much pressure on yourself, because that's why you feel so let down afterwards. So if you try just smiling, saying hello, then having a chat and build up your confidence with a girl before asking for her number, then you might feel better about it. You'd also get to know her a little bit better and allow her to get to know you first. Bonus :)
Other than that, you'll just have to let your confidence grow gradually but you'll get there in the end. Just remember that there are loads of girls who don't feel confident either. And most of the confident people are just putting it on! Good luck.
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