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writes:My long time boyfriend does not want to get married. His excuse has been that he does not have a secure job. He makes business trips to Russia. By going thru' his email i just found out he has been having a relationship with his translater. He says it's internet flirting but i think it's more than that. She is also married. I also found a myspace that he had signed up for 3 years ago and he states that he is single. We have been living together for 10 years and i always thought we had a great relationship, until now. There is so much more i want to say, but i have to keep it short. I guess my question is, what do i do? I'm so afraid to be alone, plus i love him and don't know how i could deal with this if we broke up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): He has something to hide but seems to want a stable relationship with you as well. There are many women who face this kind of issue and a faint heart never win through. You may win him, you may not, you may find you don't want to when you have the facts. If you don't want to know then you could stay in denial as many do.
If you find you want to get to the bottom of this and need evidence before deciding, you may have to test things further. It is not in his interests to be truthful with you it seems, so you are your only resource.
Look up a website called Webwatcher. It is a totally invisible bit of software that can not be picked up by anything already on your PC, Norton, Adaware or anything else. It is not expensive, all you have to do is download it online when he is out. The technical help is exemplary.
Then you can log into your computer from anywhere, any other PC or the one you use at home and see every word he types, every email sent, passwords and websites visited.
It works by creating a website that is yours and pulling his activity onto that. So, when you loo you are looking from a remote location. Give yourself some time, a limited period to check, then remove it perhaps.
You can make him face the consequences and move on together, ot decide not to be with him. Courage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): You are a strong woman and you will handle if just fine when you kick this jerk to the curb. He is taking advantage of you good nature. I'm sure you do love him, but wouldn't you rather be alone by yourself, than alone with him sitting next to you thinking about the other woman? You deserve so much more...Respect, love, honesty, and Total commitment. I pray that all things will work out according to the Lords will. All my prayers. Good Luck
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