A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:i need help to understand this situation im in tnx.i grew up with this guy and we were extremly friendly he was a sort of father/brother figure to me. he is nigerian and he wasnt allowed to live or work in the country, so he married his gf back at home and because she was allowed in and they were married he was finally allowed to work and live here legally.anyways i became quite freindly with her and when she had her first kid i would babysit allot for them and stuff like that. but over a while she became jealous of the relationship i had with her husband, i meen we were friends we grew up together, and they had issues at home. she never understood him or didnt trie to and he got angry frustrated with her and didnt trie to make it better, they were both at fault, he cant be possesed and she is possesive so they both clashed.they seperated 4 years.and in the mean time i got into alot of trouble and he helped me he was always there 4 me even the middle of the night. and the jealousy and anger she had towards me got worse she became spitefull she would date other pple in front of her husband and stuff like that.i dont get why they havnt divorced but anyways.they have been seperate 4 6 yrs so far and last night i was talking to him and kissed me. now im a bit in shock. to me the relationship was just friendship, was it somehow my fault? was i somehow blind and didnt notice that he wanted more that he really liked me and she picked that up? did i cause there once ok relationship to break upart?im now fealing really guilty not because i kissed him and liked it they have both gone there seperate ways but because i feel that it maybe all my fault.what do you think? plse be honest.
View related questions:
divorce, jealous Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, petina1  +, writes (22 January 2011):
 You've definately played a part in their relationship, intentionally or otherwise. Maybe she had a massive problem with you being there. There's two questions you must ask your self. One is, why havent they divorced? because you don't know what goes on when you arent around and they could still be seeing each other even though not living together. Question 2 is, Do you have romantic feelings for him? If not then you must tell him otherwise it could break the friendship up if you are not honest with him. The rest is for you to talk about with him and see what happens next.
|
