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writes:Dear aunts and uncles, Im in an internet relationship, He lives in America and im from the UK. We've been together 1 and a half year 1.7 on the 3rd. We've always spoke in the morning and at night but recently he said he wants space, and doesnt want to talk in the morning. Because he does have time to play games because we talk from 10pm england time till about 2am, then from 6:30am til about 9am. A few weeks ago we argued and he said he loved me less 90% instead of 100. And now there a girl thats been showing interest in him, they hugged and she has his number. I absolutley adore and love this boy, but i feel like somethings wrong i dont know if he's cheating, or if he just doesnt want me no more and i'm getting quite upset about it. Am I just over reacting or do you think somethigns up too? Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2008): ok.
he's probably cheating.
i'm currently, well, fooling around, with a guy who has an internet girlfriend. he says he adores her online...but doesn't even mention her to me. the only reason i know is because it says they are dating on myyearbook.com and he has a pic of her on the background of his phone. she lives on the other side of the country so while she sits and and texts him all the time he's messing around with me, watching movies with me, pretty much acting like my boyfriend.
i feel bad for her. and i think he's a pretty shitty person. lol. but we have fun.
and i kinda agree with everyone, how can you truely love someone you've never even met? the kid i'm with is AMAZING at sweet talking and making a girl feel awesome online. i actually talk to him the most online. but he goes to my university so we see each other every day too. but anyway, in person, he is so so different. he is a total stoner, high and drunk all the time. he is very quiet, and he kind of has a hard time getting all his words out when he talks. hes very socially backward but you would never guess that from talking to him online.
idk. i know you can't just stop loving someone. you probably hear this all the time cause i did when i was your age, but you can't know that you are in love when you are that young. you really really can't. i thought i was, it turns out that it wasn't love AT ALL. and we dated for two years. its weird. but trust me, this guy sounds a bit like my guy...not good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): We have aranged to meet, we were supposed to meet last summer but we're both kids and i was only 15, so i couldnt find a job so we together we could'nt cover the expences but this year we've agreed to pay half each and im going there for christmas, if things work out of course, but im really insecure about this other girls liking him and the fact he sayshe needs space, maybe im too clingy? i dont know. he's not my first boyfriend but he's my first love and i guess its something i feel strongly about trying to keep but its harder to see the problem when your so upset about it yourself, that why i wanted advice on what i could do to help.
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reader, AnonymousBob +, writes (31 July 2008):
I was in your situation when I was younger.
It was an internet relationship for about 2 years, on and off. We had never met, but like, always ended up going back to this "internet relationship" we had every so often. In the end, I had a choice - a girl in the city I live in, or her. At the time I was only 15, and couldn't cope with the distance, so I went with the girl in the city.
3 years later however, me and my old internet girlfriend are still talking, and in january 2008, we met for the first time, and we ended up going out after 5 years of never meeting. Now our relationship is a lot stronger because we have actually met.
You might want to arrange to meet the guy in person soon.
If not, in the meantime? As harsh as it may soud, don't waste what time you have being a teenager, you'll miss it later. If you can arrange to meet, then maybe one day you can make it work over the Atlantic. It;s easier once you have met.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (31 July 2008):
 It's just that I can't see this as a true relationship. I don't understand how someone can truely love someone who they haven't even met in the flesh. Words are so cheap, how can you possibly really know someone if you can't see them face to face or touch them?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): I appriciate your advice but, its not that easy to just stop loving someone and move on to someone new. I really am in love with him. Do you think maybe i should tell him about my worries? or could that make thigns worse?
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (31 July 2008):
 I agree with eyswideopen. You need to find a real boy to have a real relationship with rather than a fantasy relationship with someone on the other side of the planet. Being able to do things with someone (hugs and kisses as well as going to movies and other activiities) is much more significant than just being able to talk about the things you have done on your own.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (31 July 2008):
My advice is to find a guy in jolly old England with whom you can have an honest to God relationship. You know, the kind that means hugs, kisses, and all that good stuff.
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