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writes:Ok Well, About last month...some girl added me to face book. I didn't know her. Then later on I had her on msn messenger list..We started chatting, and then she started getting nasty and was almost demanding me to put on my web cam. It was getting unbearable so i just let her see my cam for about 1 minute...she wanted me to show my parts and I refused and logged off messenger.....This happened one more time and all i showed was my stomach...I know im very stupid I should of just signed off. I eventually deleted this nutcase and blocked her. Like about 3 weeks passed and we chatted again...she then, told me that she wasnt the girl in the display pic and that she knew my name and knew my sisters name and my gf's name. She even mentioned my high school...she then said that if i don't show her my webcam, that she would send the video of me without a shirt to my loved ones and family, and the morning announcements at school. So yea, i am being blackmailed by an unidentified person. Is this blackmail?? Is it illegal? My theory is that she found out all my info through facebook, or even scarier, this person actually knows me. Well yea WHAT SHOULD I DO? im sort of scared, and this unknown person wants to send this to my gf too.well I already know that nothing was posted in the morning announcements..so yea i feel a little better...hopefuly this person is full of it..... any help or advice please? Thanks
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reader, asmah57 +, writes (15 November 2010):
STOP. There are a lot of comments on here saying that this could all be a joke. IT IS NOT A JOKE. Whether it is someone he knows or not, IT IS WRONG. And very likely a SEXUAL PREDATOR. I have seen several news stories about this type of thing recently:http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504083_162-20013811-504083.html?tag=contentMain;contentBodyhttp://www.newson6.com/Global/story.asp?S=13474821Luckily you didn't give them sexual photos or webcam. Yes, showing yourself shirtless is somewhat embarrassing but it isn't as bad as it could have been, or will be if you give in to their extortion. Nothing good will come from giving in to their pressure. I suggest googling 'sextortion' or 'sexual extortion' for more information. Your best advice is to block them, avoid any contact, and do not 'friend' or 'add' any strangers for while (it is easy for predators to make new accounts and continue harassment). I know it is hard, but you really need tell your girlfriend and trusted family members what is happening too. Look up your state's Bureau of Investigation website. They should have a 'cyber crimes' unit or even one dedicated to sexual exploitation. You can also report it to the regular police or request information from them. This is particularly important if any of this occurred before you were 18 yrs old. It is HIGHLY LIKELY this person is doing this to OTHER young people too and needs to be stopped. Bottom line: IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. You didn't do anything wrong. That person did. They know how to manipulate and pressure victims into doing what they normally wouldn't want to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): It'sonly a picture of ur stomach, just block her, there aint nothing to worry about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): she's full of it! in the future, don't add people you don't know cause it can be very dangerous! a girl I used to know added a girl on facebook who turned out to be a guy who stalked her and raped her. Don't add strangers
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): Well, if all she has to use against you is a picture of you showing your stomach, you really shouldn't stress so much about it. That is hardly embarrassing. Any chance this "girl" is one of your buddies trying to play a prank on you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): IF this psycho, whoever she or maybe he is actually did send that picture of you would people even be able to tell it was you? Is it just a picture of your stomach? If you can't see your face this person can't prove it anyway.
Maybe this will teach you not to add people you don't know. Also why did you block her then add her again? Very silly. It's probably someone playing a cruel joke on you.
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reader, kalykush +, writes (12 November 2010):
 unless you saved the chat logs you dont have a case at all. sorry.
you must keep all chat logs make sure you have a time and date stamp on your logs
this person is 'unknown' but should be easy to track by her user name and IP address... but its really up to your local law enforcement how they would like to persue this case... and yes blackmail is illegal so is cyber bullying. there is fines and jail time for cyber bullying now.
good luck
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (12 November 2010):
 One more thing, don't add people on Facebook you don't know!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (12 November 2010):
I guess you can say it's blackmail..and blackmailing is illegal. You have proof through chats/messages on Facebook and MSN..that you can show to the authorities and get her in trouble.
However, I think this girl is calling bluff. How would she send a video of you on the morning announcements?? You showed her your stomach, big deal...Who cares? I would be more worried in you did drop your drawers. Block her on Facebook and MSN, tell her if she's going to blackmail you, that you have proof and you will go to the authorities.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): Have you thought that perhaps this is your girlfriend having a joke with you?
have you tried talking to your loved ones about this?
I don't think it's illegal but why would it bother your loved ones if you tell them exactly what happened like you've posted on here.
Hope this helps,
Jade
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reader, Sarahh._x  +, writes (12 November 2010):
 To be honest its probably just someone that fancies you at school/collage/work place! And they're clearly nuts and just want a bit of control, my advice report her on facebook and messenger. If all else fails set up a new messenger and facebook, if she starts threatening you and you feel genuinely scared phone the police.
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