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*hygrl
writes:"OPs Own Title" okay i have this friend that i meet from college (lets call him bob). While my question is we have been friends for about 2years now, and when i meet him he was about to get married but however would still try to get with me on the side. So one day out the blue we were talking and he says that his relationship was over and he was trying to get with me. So this goes on for about 3 weeks so this morning we ended up having sex. I know this was wrong because we are such GOOD friends but anyway after that he went home then his ex girlfriend calls me saying i slept with her husband. So come to find out NOW that he IS married after all and he lied to me. So should i tell her whats been going on this past 3weeks?
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (4 June 2010):
 You'll have to tell her that bit about him lying to you about being married. Anything else is optional.
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reader, shygrl +, writes (4 June 2010):
shygrl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhile just want to thank everyone for the feedback. I think i am not going to tell her. To me i do not care if she knows all the details however i am going to tell her that he lied to me about being married, and as far as me and him being friends that would never happen now i do not deal with man or should i say little boys. Are friendship has come to the end of the road. Never will talk to him again!
P.S. He stills tries to call me and explain himself, BUT i cant got time to hear his lies..
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (4 June 2010):
 I'd say she knows alot already from the sounds of things. I suppose you could offer her the info if she doesn't already have it. If nothing else to let her know that he told you he was single and so you, being the good girl you are had no malice in mind, especially towards her.
Personally, I'd bust this guy out seven ways to hell. What a dog. I don't think this guy was ever really your friend, let alone a good friend, sweetie. His wife is injured now, bear that in mind.
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reader, Nathaniel116  +, writes (4 June 2010):
ask yourself "would i want to know if i was her"?
i personaly would. this is one of the trickeist things i have answered, and it is somthing only you can decide. i would incourage you to tell her, but very gentaly and nicelly. what she does with the truth is up to her, but at least you wont feel guity over it, you know?
Anyways, good luck in whatever you choose!
P.S - slap that asshole of a guy.(or better yet punch him in the face)
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reader, Braha +, writes (4 June 2010):
He is just your basic sleaze cheater, liar, faker.
But should you tell her about her phony husband?
Well, he is not just going to sit and watch her get angry after she confronts him.
He is not going to explain to his wife how terrible and evil he is! No, he will tell her how YOU led him on and how he tried so hard to avoid you but YOU just prevailed. This then will be his secret victory. He now will appear to be a steamy stud in the eyes of his wife, indirectly showing off how he attracts women easily. That makes him almost look more desirable in her eyes while you become just an expendable side show.
So, before you tell her, ask yourself what you would accomplish.
It seems to me that you would get revenge by telling his wife. After all, you were used by him. For two years you sort of trusted him, so why not trust him when he claimed that his relationship is over?
Now his attitude might well be, "Hey, we already did it, why not do it often and have some fun?"
Do not fall for this!!
Do not lose your self respect.
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