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writes:Please help,I have been happily married to my husband for four years,a couple of months ago his attitude became erratic, he finally confessed that he had an addiction to shemale porn.We are christian and both born agian, I told him that i would try to forgive him, I don't know if this is normal or if he is gay, he said that he isn't and that he only does it because he like the anal part.Should I give him another chance,I'm so confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2011): Well first it doesn't mean that he's gay. He probably just had/has a fetish. I think that he just likes watching it. There is a huge line between watching something and acctualy wanting to do it. And being attracted to shemale is like being into a woman with penis.
Since he came up to you he's probably looking for support, and since you are his wife I think that what you should give him. This is not something he would want to share with your pastor I guess or anyone else so you should really be there for him. I had also a problem with this sort of thing and since I m Christian I kinda can understand how you feel.
I think the fact that he came up and told you its suggesting that he's telling the truth and he just likes anal( and not being gay).
I think I can be sure that you two are not having anal sex together and its more of a taboo or something " forbidden ". And that why he might be lusting over it.
These are just my assumptions since I don't know the whole story but I think I might be right.
Good luck to you I hope you guys will work it out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): He said he watch it because he likes the anal part. Do you think that this "anal part" may be one of his desires or fantasy to carry out? Maybe he may want to have anal sex with you? I'm not completely sure. It can also just be that he's addicted and needs therapy help.
I do believe that you should give him a second chance since he came out and told you about it. A lot of spouses are afraid to come out and share their struggle with their spouses.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): I would address the fact that he has an addiction.
As he came out and told you about it, you should offer him all the support you can. Set up the computer in the living room so that you can see it as well, ask him to talk to you about why he feels the need to watch so much porn to the point he feels he has an addiction.
As for the content, I wouldn't really worry. Porn is porn. As long as there are no illegal aspects to it, then its fine. But the fact that he claims to have an ADDICTION is something that requires attention.
Yes, def give him another chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): Its no different to any kind of porn, it certainly doesn't mean he's gay! he probably is just interested in the anal side of things and respects you too much to ask you to participate!
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