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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi I wonder if anyone out there can advise me with the following situation.....In the pub I frequent a few weeks ago a new girl has started, she has started working on the bar and she was always very talkative, I ended up having a few conversations and after a while I found her to be a very sweet girl. she's originally not from the UK and just generally has a very likable personality.we've had numerous conversations and i've said i've noticed that i am beginning to like her, and when she came in on a couple of occasions she gave me a hug which I liked,... she sometimes works on the ground floor as a waitress and when she has been near my table I would see her from a distance and a couple of times we made eye contact, well later on as she was walking past me and I winked at her and she smiled back at me.well on friday something happened....I had drunk a lot of coffee that day and was feeling all jittery when I was at the bar I said hello to her which she replied 'hey mister' with a cheeky smile. well after a couple of pints I went back to her, I then said 'Have I pissed you off at all?' which she replied 'no never why do you think that?' I then said that she wastnt her usual talkative self and she reliped that 'she's scared' because she hastnt been performing very well working on the bar and making a lot of mistakes and such and such she then said in a playful manner 'I love you' I then frowned at her as i was a bit drunk and trying to play around and then she frowned back.....anyway ever since then she's been avoiding me and hastnt spoken to me since and I'm starting to think that I upset her or made her feel awkward but it was because I didnt know how to respond to the situation..I want to say sorry and make up with her but I just dont want to come across as a weirdo or a creep, I also have to be very careful as the pub is one of those typical cliquey neighborhood bars where evrybody gossips and the staff themselves are very cliquey as well so I need to be very careful about crossing boundaries and keeping it appropiate, I'm somebody who is very self consious and insecure as i have a lot of social anxiety issues and i dont want things to become awkward as I go to this pub so often...so long story short 1) how would u interperet the way this girl is, do you think she liked me? 2)how do I make a way to make up with her but at the same time being discreet subtle 3) how do i d it in a way why doestnt make me look weird or creepy
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reader, Jellybean1726  +, writes (26 November 2012):
I think if she did like you that you definitely scared her off by askin if you pissed her off. To women that's kind of a flag to stay away. To make it up to her I would just apologise for your behaviour & crossing the line explain that you were intoxicated & didnt mean it then ask if you can start over if she's the sweet girl you say she is she might be willing to If so then start over. If she's not atleast you will feel better about your actions & know you did what you could to correct it then you have nothing to feel awkward about!
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