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writes:Hi, I posted a Q earlier about what to do about my ex. An idea was to just tell him how I feel, but I’m not sure how to. Just briefly what happened, was that I broke up with my bf 2 months ago (been together for nearly 2 years). I thought it would just be a couple of days for us to think, but too much time had passed and now we hardly ever talk/write, and when we do it’s very brief. He’s not the type to take initiative, and I don’t want to seem desperate. The thing is I already a week or two after the break-up tried to tell him, but he rejected me (though he still had feelings for me). Our mutual friends tell me he seems depressed when they talk/write, I also see him looking at me when we’re at the same place. I won’t go into details because there are so many, but to sum it up, I think he’s still got feelings for me, but he’s afraid of getting hurt again, so he’s trying to avoid me, so he can avoid his feelings for me, if that makes sense. So my question is, if I should tell him how I feel and how should/can I do it, when he’s trying to avoid me? Other ideas for what to do are welcome too. Thanks.
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reader, anna*belle +, writes (20 December 2008):
anna*belle is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi, I've taken your advice, and I'm writing a letter. Thanks for all your help.
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reader, anna*belle +, writes (20 December 2008):
anna*belle is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMost likely we wont meet until after the new year, and we haven't talked face to face in almost two months, so I don't know if we'll get a conversation flowing at that time. And then is it too late? I've been racking my brain to figure out what to do. Would (trying) to talk/write with him help to get the conversation flowing before hand? and thank you so much for your help
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reader, anna*belle +, writes (20 December 2008):
anna*belle is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm really considering your idea, but three weeks ago I asked if he wanted to get a cup of something to drink and he didn't want to because he was still hurting. So I'm afraid that if the timing is wrong, he will say no and then that's the end. I've been thinking if this is really what I want since the break-up and I'm 100% sure that I want to get back together with him. Should I, when I ask him out, tell him that I made a mistake and was too hasty with the break-up, or should I wait to tell him that when we meet?
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