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writes:I went up to visit my Mom and a guy I liked this summer, we ended up getting extremly close and going out. He asked me to marry him, I said yes. We are quite young but we have also known each other our entire lives and I couldn't be happier with him. I had to come back home and we live in different provinces, he will be coming here when he graduates and comes down here for college. Which is in about a year and a half from now. My problem is I am missing hims o much, it is becoming unbarable. I have asked my mom if I can go up there for my Christmas break and she said that she'd look into it. As it stands My mom hasn't spoken to me in about two weeks, for no reason... I am assuming it is because she does not want me there and doesn't want to face me to tell me because she knows how much I am missing him .. this is honestly killing both of us. So my question to all of you is.. what am I to do ? How do I stop missing him so much? anything, any advice is greatly appreciated on the matter.
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reader, lala1806  +, writes (28 October 2007):
 i would have to agree with the last answer...."if you love someone there is nothing you can do to make you miss them less" but hun know your def not alone.....im in the army and there is a guy in afghan right now he wont be back til march and he left in march of 07....but even before that i left in july of 06 for my training didnt make it home til december i was soo excited to be coming home before his deployment but since its hard to really be able to have contact with anyone during training i hadnt realized that he went back home to his home town state to spend time with his family before leaving for afghan so quite honestly by the time he gets back it will be 1 year and 8 months since i have last seen him.....but it gets easier as the time goes by i mean you will constantly think about him everday but u guys are able to do something i cant do ....i dont really get to speak to him on the phone since he has left i have talked to him once on the phone we usually keep in contact on i.m. but u can talk to ur man everday if u guys decide thats what u want to do.....all i would say is that during the day keep urself busy if u cant make plans to work or hang out with friends clean house even if its already clean the more u do the less time u have to sit around and think about it the distance between the two of u....im not saying that u wont ever think about him even when u are busy im just saying that while ur busy ur mind will be working on other things to so it may help to eleviate some of the hurt of missing him as far as the nights go well those are the worse....while u lay in bed u have time before actually falling a sleep u think so much about him....my suggestion make it a point to make sure his voice is the last thing u hear at night and the first thing u hear in the morning if that works with the both of ur schedules....hope this helps good luck
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (28 October 2007):
 Hon, if you really love someone there is nothing that will make you miss them less. The only thing you can do is to somehow tolerate it for the time being, even though that might be quite a difficult thing to do.
My wife and I carried on a long long distance relationship for about a year and a half before we were finally able to marry. We have now been married almost 28 years.
So you see, I know what I am talking about when I say it can be done. We lived almost 1400 miles apart. (2 253.081 6 kilometers) We wrote almost every other day and spoke on the phone at least once a week.
Sometimes I thought I would never be able to see her but of course I finally did and I am glad I was patient. Doc
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