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30-35,
Kat_M_2011
writes:Dear Readers,We all have been in these spots, where we have to use the lines, "I think we should break up" or "It's not me, it's you" am I right? If we haven't used them we have surely had them said to us at one point in our lives. How do you handle a break up though? What happens when your ex moves on? All of these are questions I can answer for you if you are the dumper in this situation. 1. How do you handle a break- up? Say you've been together for three months with a guy (or a girl if you're a male reading this), and you simply realize this guy just doesn't treat you right. You call and you end it, and they get hurt, and upset. They cuss you out naturally, and say they can't live without you, etc. Well how do you as the dumper handle the dumped? a. you calm them down.b. you tell them the reasons you are breaking up with them.c. say the typical, I hope we can still be friends. This is all just day one. 2. How do you react if your ex won't accept reality?Say you get a text one day and it's your ex, and he's (she's) angry at you still, and it's been two months. He/she has a fury against you and they make no point to hide it. They even get their friends in on the scheme to cuss you out too for something they arent even involved in. How do you as the recipient of such a text or phone call or facebook message reply to this? You can chose to ignore it; they're being immature and can't get over you. If ignoring makes the situation worse, then tell them what is what. Be bold and firm, but I repeat do not stoop to their level of cussing and rage. Be calm and firm; smooth and assertive. Tell them to accept that you aren't together anymore. Explain how you do not appreciate them carrying on about this, and that if they truly want a chance at being friends with you, then they'll respect you by accepting life the way it is. Or if in the last two months, you've gotten into a new relationship, tell your ex you're seeing someone else, and explain that you're happy and if you're truly my friend then you'll want me to be happy. Just keep being firm and calm with them, eventually when they see it is hopeless to keep trying, then they'll move on too. They have someone out there for them too.Conclusion: So if you have a jealous ex, tell them what is what. Be wise in your responses, cause if you fight fire with fire, you're only going to get burnt in the end as you watch the flames go out of control. It takes two to tango, and two to argue, if one of you is arguing, be the mature one and stop the fighting. No drama is needed, even if it was an ugly breakup. Yes breakups hurt, but all broken hearts mend and eventually you need to let this go and MOVE ON.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (25 October 2010):
 You forgot the classic "We need to talk."
"We can be friends" statement change it to "I'd like to be friends one day but now isn't the time."
Other than that I like it!
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reader, suitcase  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 good one kat
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