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writes:I went on a date with a friend we just thought we would see how it would go . I was more quiet and behaved i didnt want to give a bad impression . The guy had a little too much to drink and got tired easy. We're still good friends but he hinted he likes to keep busy all the time and he must have the impression i dont do as much as him. He works nights so the time he does have in the afternoons he makes the most of it always keeping busy . I'm a single parent ( he knows ) my child is a lot older now and doesn't need a babysitter but i think he thinks i dont have as much freedom as i actually do. How do i show that i do do stuff and dont just sit about doing nothing , he got the wrong impression of me , i dont want to hound him . thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2016): You never go back to make a better impression. You move forward.
I agree with Honeypie. I just don't think the chemistry is there and he's sparing your feelings. You had to come up with your own explanation; but I think it would be best if you get it straight from him. The transition from friend to lover isn't an easy one. You are familiar on less intimate terms and sometimes the sparks don't fly the way you want. I think you're more into him, than he is into you.
I hope you can handle it, if that is the case. Only way to know is to ask; and find a way to make it make it possible that he can be honest with you, without causing hard feelings.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (18 August 2016):
 Maybe he just don't see you and him as a good fit? You called him a friend, so I would presume he knows you better than JUST that first date.
I don't think he is as interested as you are in going further.
Being quiet and well behaved in public doesn't equal being boring.
I think it was just the "best" excuse he could come up with to hint that he doesn't see you two leading to a relationship.
But why not TALK to him?
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