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writes:How should I respond to a roommate who forgives but very rarely forgets?I am entering my second year of living with my old roommate and one other person (3 bedroom apt.) We are all college students. Quite frequently, when we have a disagreement, the conversation will degenerate, and the old roommate will bring up something resolved from a long time ago. I can certainly come up with a list of things he did, but I believe that, while I can't quite manage the forget part of "forgive and forget," I feel it's impolite to bring up something from the past, so I try my best to avoid that. Additionally, I have noticed that often when I criticize an action, he says something akin to "while we are on an uncomfortable topic," to criticize something that I did recently. This old roommate has told me that I am very blunt, to the point of rudeness, and my tendency to remove myself physically when I am upset is offensive. At this moment, I am rather amused because I find myself biting my tongue when I encounter poor behavior on his part, because I once heard a quote along the lines of 'spend so much time trying to improve yourself that you don't have the energy to improve others.' Thus, with that goal in mind, what should I do in such a situation? (preferably in a not very blunt way.)
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