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writes:Hi, how do you introduce a new man in your life to your teenage kids and how long should you wait before you do? I am getting divorced and have been separated for almost 2 years. I have met someone that is a great man. Thanks for your advice.
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reader, virgin89 +, writes (7 May 2008):
 mam i am 19 and my mother and father divorced when i was 10.. she finally met a guy that treated her very well when i was 14 and my little brother was 9 and the way she brought him into our life was very smooth and easy.. she said she had been seeing him for about 4-5 months before she mentioned him to us.. i love him today he has been my real dad figure.. she just first sat down and talked to us about it and not in a serious way it was a little at dinner and then we sat down together just the 3 of us and watched a movie and she talked to us in not a serious was but in a relaxed way and it made it seem like she really really cared about him and for her to get that across to me at that age meant something to me bc she had always been treated like crap.. but just talking to me and my brother in a relaxed way not really pushing it helped.. he visited a few times for like the evening and took us out a few times with them.. they involved us in so much.. the first time i met him i wasn't all like wow he's cool..lol i was 14 but the short visits at first then outings together sometimes like bowling, dinner, movie(we got to pick most of the time), and Him actually talking to us instead of mom doing all the talking was really cool.. then we went and stayed with him at his house after about 2 months of that a couple of weekends and that was really cool.. hard at first but cool.. you say you have a great man and i'm sure you do just me as a young man looking back on that number one just don't rush things with the kids cause it was hard when they rushed the moving in but just spending time with both mom and him and then just me and him or my little brother and him or just the 3 of us without mom became easier.. just took time and effort on his part.. hope my answer wasn't too long and helped.. reading your question just made me think back on the last 5 years lol.. good luck to you mam and i'll be sure to say a prayer for your family :)
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reader, virgin89 +, writes (7 May 2008):
mam i am 19 and my mother and father divorced when i was 10.. she finally met a guy that treated her very well when i was 14 and my little brother was 9 and the way she brought him into our life was very smooth and easy.. she said she had been seeing him for about 4-5 months before she mentioned him to us.. i love him today he has been my real dad figure.. she just first sat down and talked to us about it and not in a serious way it was a little at dinner and then we sat down together just the 3 of us and watched a movie and she talked to us in not a serious was but in a relaxed way and it made it seem like she really really cared about him and for her to get that across to me at that age meant something to me bc she had always been treated like crap.. but just talking to me and my brother in a relaxed way not really pushing it helped.. he visited a few times for like the evening and took us out a few times with them.. they involved us in so much.. the first time i met him i wasn't all like wow he's cool..lol i was 14 but the short visits at first then outings together sometimes like bowling, dinner, movie(we got to pick most of the time), and Him actually talking to us instead of mom doing all the talking was really cool.. then we went and stayed with him at his house after about 2 months of that a couple of weekends and that was really cool.. hard at first but cool.. you say you have a great man and i'm sure you do just me as a young man looking back on that number one just don't rush things with the kids cause it was hard when they rushed the moving in but just spending time with both mom and him and then just me and him or my little brother and him or just the 3 of us without mom became easier.. just took time and effort on his part.. hope my answer wasn't too long and helped.. reading your question just made me think back on the last 5 years lol.. good luck to you mam and i'll be sure to say a prayer for your family :)
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