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writes:I was recently dumped after a 3 month relationship and I was wondering how long some of you guys have waited for a lover to come back? Months, years? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): it was only 3 monthes girl, dont wait for nothing,his loss not yours!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): I've never had feelings for anyone else in my life. I've never thought about anyone else. I dont know what love is and whether this is it but i can tell what i feel is strong, something more than just another guy. i can feel it with in myself. i like everything about him, including his flaws. he's done much to hurt me in the past and even to this day, played with my feelings even though he says he cares. hope is a curse and it keeps me holding on. my brain knows that others will treat me better but i am disgusted by the thought of being with anyone else. Him and i have a past but we've never been "together" with a label. I've always been around. its been 3 years. from freshman year to now.
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reader, spnwinchester +, writes (5 January 2011):
They won't just come back to you if you sit around doing nothing but waiting for them. If you won't them to come back, you have to do something first. You can't just wait, because nothing will ever happen.
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reader, Ibeatwithmyhands  +, writes (5 January 2011):
I'm still waiting for mine to come back. 5 years and counting, but I had a few girlfriends in between just for the sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2011): I don't think I have ever waited for a lover to come back. I mean after breaking up I have been sad and thought about him and lounged around my house all melancholy and looked at my phone and wished he would call. Stuff like that.
But haven't sat around waiting. You know making myself believe that somehow he will change his mind and realise that he loves me. If you think that you are just in denial. He dumped you. I mean if it is over it is over. What is there to wait for? If a guy loves you, you would not be waiting. So what is the point on waiting for someone that does not love you and is not coming back to you? There is no point.
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reader, Lexie88 +, writes (4 January 2011):
 I don't think 'waiting' for someone who dumped you is the best idea. I can't say I've waited as such, but I did hold out some hope they'd come back. Total waste of time. If someone has let you go, they have let you go for a reason, and you should let go too.
I don't know what the circumstances of your break-up were, but if you did nothing wrong and they just left, why would you wait for someone like that?
Three months isn't that long although I understand that you probably still have strong feelings for this person.
The best advice I can give you is to move on and not look back. You only have one life and every minute that goes by is a minute you will never get back. So, don't waste those minutes waiting for someone who dumped you to come back.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (4 January 2011):
 hi do you really want him back after dumping you? do you feel that the dumping was justified? if not but you are willing to forgive him anyway, just be careful you only take him back on your terms (these pages are full or FWBs) 3 months is not a long time, but i don't know how involved you were with each other. i read somewhere that the time it takes to get over someone (but this surely varies from person to person) is this ... 'for every year you have been with the person it takes a month to get over them' so if he doesn't come back, you will definitely, absolutely, no doubt, certainly get over him ok? coz people have the ability to get over ANYTHING (or at least learn to live with it) so don't worry. in the meantime just keep yourself busy and fill your life as much as possible with nice things to do and stuff to look forward to with people who care about youxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): I've waited and hoped for a lover to come back, but it's never happened (at least in the way I wanted).
It takes a while to get over people (even if you are the person who broke up with them). I would say my average is about 6 months when I have really care out the person. When I was deeply in love with a man once, it took me a year.
You won't feel this way for ever. Hang in there.
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