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writes:My girlfriend and I want to have a baby, She is the dominant one in the relationship, however she wants to have the baby. She also does not want to have sex to get pregnant, so we are trying to come up with other ways to get her pregnant. I want to know how long sperm can live outside the male body and if we can possibly inject it into her and cause a pregnancy?
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reader, curiousharmony  +, writes (14 November 2010):
 Hello,
i do not know if you stil come here to check this or not, but i would liek to know if it worked? right now my girlfriend and I are actually going through that same process. i just had a few conerns so searched the lovely internet and stumbled upon this convo. and was hoping you could help.
hope it worked for you, 3harmony
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reader, kenia34 +, writes (23 September 2009):
kenia34 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAllow me to clarify my girlfriend who is a woman as I am a woman, we want to have a baby! So thanks for all the answers and please keepem coming!!!!!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (18 September 2009):
Arrrgh I didn't realise you were a woman too!
Please ignore everything I said. SORRY!!
Yep, as far as I know the turkey baster approach works well. If you have a male donor in mind (it's always better to know family history, hairline, and a bit about them isn't it.)
Then just get him to do his thing in a quiet room, at your place and then take the little pot and go straight for it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2009): Emily and Guillaume, The poster is female, this is a lesbian relationship, she's not talking about herself having sex with her girlfriend, in fact she doesn't mention her sex life at all.
What she means is that her girlfriend doesn't want to sleep with a guy to make a baby.
Tisha has some good advice on this one point I'd like to add, if you have a male friend that would be willing to it and sign off all rights to the child then that's also a possibility, my Aunt had a child with her female lover and her lovers brother donated the sperm.
The advantage to this approach is that she knows the guy personally, knows his family history, knows his personality and appearance and is able to better judge what kind of child she will have from that, plus it's as close genetically to her lover as is possible. While their situation is rare, the child they have has features of both my aunt and her lover, soimething which is also rare in Lesbian couples.
It is best to speak to your doctor for advice on this matter, you will need expert medical advice and will want to look into the legal aspects of this too, should you decide to use a friends sperm.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (18 September 2009):
 I just want to double-check my facts: this relationship you are in, you are both females, correct?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (18 September 2009):
You really should have a discussion with her/your OB/GYN as well as a sperm bank. This is not something to enter into lightly. Finding a male to donate sperm, figuring out if he is disease and hereditary disorder-free, then drafting some sort of legal document so he and you understand and agree on his legal rights to the child, not to mention yours--these are all very delicate issues and if mishandled, could end up putting you on the Jerry Springer Show.
Here is a link that will help you find an AATB (American Association of Tissue Banks) accredited reproductive tissue organization that distributes sperm cells. http://www.aatb.org/af_accreditedbank.asp I recommend using this link, or one provided by the OB/GYN because the donors to these banks have to go through rigorous testing to ensure that you and the babies produced are kept as healthy as possible.
It would be an incredibly stupid idea to find a random male to use as a sperm donor, and all kinds of sticky issues can come up if you use a male friend as the donor. I really would strongly advise you to go through reputable doctors and sperm banks. It will be more expensive, I know, but the disastrous situation you could wind up in is much more of a risk if you choose to go it alone.
Good luck!
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (18 September 2009):
 Emily- the poster is a woman too hehe
But sorry I cant answer you question, I'll just say, where are you getting the sperm from? It could cause complications in the future if its from a close friend.
Good luck xx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 September 2009):
One question for you?
Why are you letting this woman (who doesn't even like you enough to have sex with you) have your baby?
You do have a choice in this too.
If you want to be treated with this much disrespect for the next 20 years then go for it, use a turkey baster.
If you want to be happy and have your child with a woman who treats you well, then find someone else and marry them.
Good Luck!! xx
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