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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:This is for those who have been cheated on. I have taken my husband back after I found out he had an affair. We have good and bad days - and I don't really see the bad times coming. One minute I'm fine, the next something reminds me of what happened and I flip out. I believe he is sorry for what he has done and that he wants to be back with me and our 2 year old son. We are both doing individual counselling. We started doing couples counselling but after a few stupid manouvers on his part (like more lying etc), we decided it's probably best to do some work individually and once our heads are a bit clearer then we'll do couples counselling again. My question is, how long did some people take to move on after being cheated on. I don't mean fully get over it because I think that's a long way ahead. I mean how long did it take to not so flip out so often and use what happened against their cheating partners when having an argument which is obviously counter productive. And what it took to move past the hurt and betrayal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2011): It takes a long time.
Figure on 2 years or so after you found out about the cheating, even if it was a long time ago.
It's a lot to digest, people cheat, but to cheat they lie, etc. All that has to be dealt with.
I've not got my 2 years in yet...I'm hoping it gets better, but the first 2 months was hell...and today it's much better than that and some days are better than we ever had.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2011): You have to forgive him and only when you have you will see an improvement but you certainly wont forget
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