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writes: Man is the sex-driven provider. Woman is the money-sucking vixen. Man wants sex all the time. Woman wants shoes all the time. Man has to be tough and not cry. Woman has to be sexy if single, whiney if married.What is it with stereotypes? They make me nauseous. I think it's time we all think with our heads and stop generalizing. It's hard not to generalize, but the way it's done nowadays just sickens me.Personally, I never think about shoes. Sure there may be the odd time when I'd like a cool pair of boots, but I'm too lazy to go to the store and start looking for shoes or clothes, or whatever. I hate shopping. I rather spend MY money (yes, the money that I earn) on something better, like pursuing my hobbies, or having a nice meal. A nice meal, you say? Yes, because while I take care of my body, I like to indulge every once in a while. And then, dear men. The way they're portrayed, is, in my opinion, insulting. Think about it, while they aren't supposed to be the high maintenance hotties that us women are expected to be, they're expected to be money making machines that only care about "scoring", and God forbid they show any emotion!. That they have to make enough money to get the female "hottie". And if he gets married, that he has to get the money to support the family, and to cater to every wish the wife may have.Oh, society... if only we could just relax for a second, take a deep breath and realize that we're all humans, and each one of us is unique. That we're free creatures. That we're supposed to break free from what's expected. Then maybe so many people wouldn't fall into stereotypes. Then maybe women wouldn't freak out so much about having the perfect wedding ('Bridezillas' come to mind) and men wouldn't be so stressed and unhappy about giving up their freedom.Yes, there are women out there who're all about shopping and are extremely selfish. Just as there are men who care about nothing more than scoring with as much "hotties" as they possibly can. But they're exceptions rather than rules. And most of us just fall into a place through that spectrum. Most women I know like shopping, but they're not shoe-obsessed! And most guys I know like fantasizing about women, but aren't completely driven by this. Maybe this is why I dislike sitcoms and movies so much.Because, finally, as seen on boards like this and others, people tend to get confused, and have skewed views on the opposite sex, sometimes resenting each other so much, for assumptions we may build up in our heads, fearing and dreading what may or may not happen, and not actually relaxing and enjoying the experience of relationships. We have to learn and relax, take a deep breath and the risk of getting to know each other on a deep level. Then we'll realize the beauty of human interaction. And we'll forget all about the conviniently created stereotypes. (Really... it just makes me so angry when men assume that just because I'm a woman I'm obsessed with shoes. For goodness sake, I'll take a comfy pair of sneakers any time!)Let's break free, shall we? Let's just ignore the media and the ignorant. We'll be happier, I promise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): its so sad when people expect you to be like one thing- and even if your not they just assume you are
e.g. stupid and slutty if your blonde or have big boobs, ugly and fat if you just have natural curves, anorexic even if your just naturally skinny, nerdy and submissive and shy/antisocial if your asian, stupid and shallow if your male, weak and emotional and needy if your female ...etc.
stereotypes are just stupid
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): tux wrote:
"When married, men are dumb, imbeciles who need someone to put their pants on in the morning"
Spot on!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): Down with stereotypes!! Great article, I agree, stereotypes are one of the most infuriating, frustrating things created by humans. Why can't we accept people who are different? Why do we have to apply labels to everyone? Why do we have to JUDGE everyone.
I so badly wish that some people weren't so ignorant and, to be frank, downright stupid. The world would be a better place if people opened their eyes to what is truly important, as opposed to everything superficial that today seems to be focused on.
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reader, tux  +, writes (11 July 2008):
 You forgot one.. When married, men are dumb, imbeciles who need someone to put their pants on in the morning.
But stereotypes can be bad. But it's bad that some people out there let these stereotypes continue. Like the girls who actually do date guys only because they have money. Or the guys who just want to have sex with any girl that walks down the street. But then again, I think most people are smart enough to realize not everyone is like that.
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