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writes:theres this boy who is always just turning up when I arrive in the cafeteria and I dont even have a really regular set routine. So how is it when I choose to go early there he is? When I choose to sit outside he just happens to walk up the path and asks can I sit here? He's not creepy he really nice but I don't see how he always seems to turn up. And he doesnt ask me out or anything he just asks me about school and how i am. and about my family and what made them come here. I am new at this school and the girls seem a bit cliquey so I have not made many friends yet but I get good marks and I can keep up with the work in this new school but ive never had a boy do this before. So I dont know what to do about this Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2012): Hello everyone. I am, the one who asked the question. Its lunchtime here on Monday and I have just talked to him. I asked him if itsa coincidwnce that he seems to turn up whereever i am. He asked me if i mind him turning up like that and I said no, because i like talking to him. He looked pleased when i said that. He asked me if I would like to join the Chess club and learn to play chess with him as he thinks I am smart. Ive never played chess but i said i would give it a try. He said he will help me. I asked him if thats why he talks to me and he said no. but he said there is a group of girls in my year who have a bad reputation for being mean to new girls. And he has seen them drive girls out of the school. And last time they did it he said he vowed to himself if a new girl seemed nice and looked like she might be at risk of what they have done to other girls he was going to talk to that girl and let the group of girls see that the new girl was not alone. Except he said that now that he has talked to me he thinks I can learn Chess easily. He said he has never offered to teach a girl to learn Chess but he thinks I would learn it easily. So I am going to join the Chess club but he is also going to explain more about it. I asked him if the group of girls he talked about are in the chess club too and he laughed and told me they are all too dumb to learn chess and he would not teach them even if they asked. So now I am feeling good about talking to him.
So your advice to talk to him Honeypie and Dear Mandy is good advice. And Abella and Karlos in a way you are both right in different ways too because he said he hated to see how some other new girls were treated. So Kenny I am going to keep talking to him as a friend as I feel Ok talking to him.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (28 October 2012):
 i like the advice Karlos gave you as I think that's a very logical explanation. Perhaps this guy at your school senses something within you that resonates with him, based on his earlier experience when he started at the school.
Talk to him. He sounds like a very respectful nice guy
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2012): Thank you for all your replies.OK I am going to take all your advice and when I see him on Monday I am going to ask about him. Just a little bit. I come from a small place where I knew everyone. So its a bit strange to have someone sit down to talk to me who does not know me at all. I will let you know how it goes. Thank you everyone.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (26 October 2012):
 HI
I agree with everyone here, I don't think it's anything other thn just being friendly and giving you someone to chat to. Maybe next time you see him say you always seem to be around when I expect it! and see what he says. But keep it in a jokey happy tone, not questioning.
Good Luck
Mandy x
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reader, kenny +, writes (26 October 2012):
 Think its just coincidence to be honest, you say that he is not creepy, that he is really nice. So just go with it, be friends with him and talk to him whenever you see him there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2012): Perhaps he was new there not so long ago and knows how you feel, so is just trying to befriend you and make feel more comfortable and less awkward maybe.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 October 2012):
 Maybe he is wondering the same thing about you?
Just talk to him :)
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