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male
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anonymous
writes:Hi, a quick bit of background:Me and my girlfriend have been together about a year now, and I love her more than anything I know. However a little while ago we broke up after she admitted she had cheated on me, and I felt I couldn't trust her. This kind of stemmed from the fact she felt she needed an open relationship to be happy, something I couldn't do.Anyway, we got back together after a short time apart as she realised she missed me too much, and promised to change. Though it's a slow process, it is getting better and in fairness she has been making an effort.However, I recently found out that she is meeting a guy she's met online for dinner. Normally I would have no issue with this, she is very shy and has few friends, and social networking is her main way of meeting people. My concern is that this guy seems to view this dinner as a date - for example, right or wrong I oversaw a text from him asking her 'where will this lead between us?'. I know that there are a number of guys interested in my girlfriend, and my worry is though she doesn't do anything to suggest she is interested in them in that way (other than some flirting, some of which does make me uncomfortable at times) she doesn't say anything to clarify or put them straight, making me wonder.Am I right in being so insecure? I feel bad for wondering, but the wounds from our breakup are still hurting slightly and I don't know whether I can trust her, even though I desperately want to. We live apart at the moment so I am limited in my options, and I am just so scared of being sitting around being taken advantage of, thinking I am her boyfriend when everyone else knows otherwise.
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reader, David121 +, writes (17 March 2011):
If she has no regard for your feelings then cut and run, a relationship is a two way street and to me it sounds like she wants her cake and to eat it.
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