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*EEN WOLF
writes:Ok so im a very serious guy. very often i think and act too serious and shy to others espically in school. Im 17 by the way. People my whole life have been commenting on it friends, family teachers and such "your great fun here but really shy in school". there not insults just honest remarks that i appreicate because i have very little consept of who i am on the outside.this is nothing to do with peer pressure and im not trying to live by anyone elses standards. i disliked this characteristic in myself before i ever knew the word serious.And strangly enought on another side ive been know to do some insane fun shit. outside school i can sometimes be the life of the party and be the funny, friendly and talkative one. Ive never once been the cool real me in class. If someone i dont know starts talking to me im like all yes/no answers and i get all serious and shy is sucks!This is my first post so im sorry if its terriable. ive spent my whole life trying to fight this and being serious makes me unhappy. ive also lost a lot of realionships because of this and come september its my last year of school and i don't want to take this bad habit to collegeany advice or empathy of a similar situation and i would greatly appericate it.Thanks.
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reader, TEEN WOLF +, writes (21 June 2008):
TEEN WOLF is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the answers. ya college sounds like a way out of my shyness in class. but a few months ago while walking around at break(in school) with my friends, they reminded me that with all my ideas i "never made an impression in school". it got me thinking.
my cousin whos finished school since this summer, was very likely to be the coolest kid in school, i never met a girl my age that didnt like him. my cousin and me are very close and many people would ask me was i his cousin.
i just dont want to leave school being that shy person. i always believed a person can change i just dont know how. i just wish class could be like my old guitar lessons where i would go in and be the life of the party. how does one loosen up and be social in class?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2008): Fortunately, college may be your ticket out. If you're starting in a new place with new people, it could offer you the chance to start fresh and take some chances. I'm in college and one think I've noticed is that if I go to the first day of a class discussion and don't say anything, I'm less likely to say anything in that class all quarter. But if I take a chance and talk, then I feel much more comfortable talking throughout the quarter and I meet people because of it. Maybe you are having a hard time changing because everyone at school knows you as shy and serious, so it's difficult to just one day be a different person. At college, no one will know anything about you! You can be exactly who you want to be from the start.
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