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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello everyone.Sorry if this sounds stupid,but I am new at this.My two previous relationships were with abusive,violent guys,so this is completely out of my frame of reference.How do you know if/when somebody's falling for you,or are in love with you?I've been seeing this guy for a while now,and he's always doing things like staring into my eyes,hugging me,texting me random things during the day,wanting me everywhere with him,telling me how awesome I am,etc.I just feel completely lost with this.He's a lovely,great guy,but I'm just so used to the not so nice guys that this confuses me.Could he actually be falling for me,do you think?Thank you in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2012): Thank you,aunt honesty,for your reply.
I'm scared I'm messing it up,though,and that I may have already done so. Last night we had an awesome night,and everything was great.Then today I panicked.Like I always do when I think things seem too good.Then I start sabotaging for myself,even though I really don't want to.I say stuff to push the other person away.I did that tonight,and I could tell he was taken aback by it,and things were a bit weird after.
So...I found someone great and this is what I do.I want to fix it,but at the same time I want to run away.
I don't know how to handle this. :(
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 August 2012):
 Yes it is very possible that he is. I am glad to see that you are out of those abusive relationships and that you have found someone who is nice to you and treats you well. I understand that it is all new to you, and you probably do have some insecurities when it comes to guys, but I think with this one you should follow your gut. He is treating you well and he is showing you he is interested so if you like him as well and you are happy then that is great news as you deserve it. Everything about this guy sounds positive and it sounds like the relationship is leading in the right direction so just enjoy it.
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