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writes:I'm fourteen, my ex boyfriend is fifteen.We have known eachother since we we're about twelve years old and have had on and off flings ever since.It wasn't only until November 2008, we decided to go steady. My ex boyfriend is a little troubled. He is more into the 'thug' scene. I hoped by being with me that he would settle down, and I could help him change his life for the better. He has been in and out of foster homes his whole life. So when he got put in one two hours away from here, is when we really connected. New years Eve, he decided he couldn't take being apart from me any longer, so he ran away from his foster home and came to my home town. Of course, I am utterly excited, but it only started going down hill from there. A weekend turned into a week, and a week turned into a month, his foster parents knowing he was alive, didn't decide to file a missing persons report until two weeks later.I tried my best to encourage him to go home, and finally a month later he did, I will admit he swept me off my feet with a month worths of romance and I thought everything was going to be fine, when he got back.Well, a few days after he got back, he started to say things like, 'I need sometime to think' I knew right away that he had been talking to his ex girlfriend.So we broke up and I keep waking up with this empty feeling in my stomach everyday. We had a horrid break up, we fought for about three days on end, finding everything little thing to pick at. I just don't understand how somebody loves you one minute and the next they don't. I left out most of the minor details, and I didn't really mean to tell you my whole life story.I just want to know how you heal a heart break and some tips to help me get over him faster and why you think he might of done such a thing..All the help I can get.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks.
Both of your advice is really helpful./
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reader, momo4eva77  +, writes (1 February 2009):
i am of ur age so i can help u cuz i had lots of these problems.it seems lik ur a gud person who deserves a gud bf who wont jus hate u the next second no matter wat they go through.if he waz a gud bf he wudnt jus hate u the next second. same things happened to mii over and over again cuz a guy says he loves mii but barely duz anything to show it but sometimes duz so many romantic things to make u 4get that he actually did sumthing bad. dont go 4 that. if a guy rely liks u he will say he loves u and show it all the time no matter wat. so he probably wasnt good enuf for u so u shud stop worrying cuz he probably already has. try to help mii to cuz i hope this helps u . good luck !!! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): Young love is tough. I remember going through some very similar situations, and I know it feels like you're going to die right now, but things will get better. I know it's cheesey, but time heals all wounds. If you are still talking to your ex boyfriend, stop. Maybe you can work on being friends down the road, but right now you need to heal your hurt, and that can't happen if you maintain contact with him.
That being said, try to busy yourself. Don't sit at home alone dwelling on how bad you feel, because it'll only make things worse. Get out of the house, go shopping, see movies, hang out with your friends. Get support from people around you. It's not easy to deal with this kind of hurt on your own. Your friends will make you feel worlds better.
Maybe down the road you can figure out what happened between you two, but for now just focus on your own mental health. He's young, he's a boy, he has an obviously tough time in life, and he's going to be flakey like that. Now, I'm not saying that if you're troubled you deserve a free pass to act however you want. I'm just saying that it's probably nothing you actually did. Sometimes things just don't work out.
Anyways, take my advice and busy yourself to help ease the pain. It will take time, but you'll feel better every day. I wish you all the luck in the world! Keep your chin up hun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): Hmm thats a tough one.
people sometimes do things like that because of the age. Your obviously a very mature person and very sensative whereas him being young he doesn't always know what he wants.
I was always told the best thing to do to get over one person is to get under another, but i suppose the best advice i can give is not to let it get you down. Your the same age as me and i can relate to what your going through and at our age we should be out having fun flirting and meeting new guys.
But you should spend lots of time with your friends aswel as they can help distract you and give you the support you need. Your not alone and as for now just go out with your friends and have an amazing time.
You will meet a lovely sensative guy and build something together. You never fully get over your first love but you get pretty darn close and you should live each day as if its your last. Don't regret and focus on all the happiness in your life.
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