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writes:How do you get a spark for life ? For years now I have been drifting through with no sense of purpose and no matter what I try I can not get a true buzz or sense of purpose from life . I have tried to look at new hobbies , new goals , bettering myself but nothing grips me and makes me think yes !! I want to do this . Plus if I do try I do fail .maybe I need something to make me feel life is very precious and not to be taken granted but to be honest if I was to die a quick none painful death tomorrow then I would not feel I have lost out on much , the only regret I would have is upsetting family members. Yes I know there is people out there who will say I should be grateful for many things I have . But I can not help it if its how I feel . thanks again
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2016): Hello it's the Op here. Thank you for taking the time to answer this people. Tbf I probably am depressed but the thought of going on happy pills doesn't feel it will help me and just label me and give me a drug to tie me over for a few hours.. Everybody I know pretty much says how nice and helpful I am but Tbh it's nothing I'm ever proud of as I never feel happy. Also nobody truly knows how I feel but that's my fault. I hear you about the parents and some years ago I started to feel the same my mom has done so much for me and I've always appreciated it but she deserves much more from me. Also it amazes me how she keeps people happy and always has thoughts for others. I don't know it would be nice just to feel I am going somewhere rather than being in the same boat for years and always hating myself. Ok I know that's self pity but it's hard when your mind is in that frame. Thanks again for the advice people
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2016): I'm 25 and have had the same thoughts and questions as you. I spent many years confused, depressed, and angry at myself for not having a "purpose", "passion". I looked at a lot of my peers and only saw their success and thought something was wrong with me. I didn't feel driven. But what I realized is that passion and purpose is relative to the individual. Just know that its okay to sometimes not know your purpose because that's actually part of a purpose. Which is life, and in life realizing the whole experience birth to death is the purpose. Passion and purpose simply come down to what is important to you in life. You don't have to think hard about it, it should be easy. For me I realized how much I didn't appreciate my parents. Not that I am a bad son, but that I took their love and devotion for granted. I realized my parents ( coming from dirt poor beginnings) worked painstakingly hard and from suffered to get me to the point I am at today. So I found my purpose through them. All I want to do now is make them happy and give back the love and support they gave me. I can still do the things I want and pursue what I want in life. Its just now I have a conscious purpose that keeps me motivated and in line. When I'm lazy, unmotivated, or down I just remind myself what my parents went through and I get emotional at the thought of letting them down so it motivates me to be happy, live life, and strive to be the best I can be just to know that their proud and happy. My advice to you is to find what makes you truly happy. It doesn't have to be complex it can be a simple thing. Something that makes you feel good inside when you are doing it and be the best you can be at it.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 April 2016):
 Do you think that maybe you might be suffering from depression? If so then I would go to your doctor and tell them how you have been feeling.
Also I would suggest getting a pup, they are great company, companionship, very loyal and much easier than a baby.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (22 April 2016):
 Travel! That means you might have to work a year to save up and then go visit some bucket list places.
Volunteer. If that doesn't give you a buzz? I don't know what to say... If you like animals start there, easier than dealing with people (for some) and really rewarding.
Do random nice things for people you know and care about. And toss in a stranger here and there. It doesn't have to cost you anything.
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