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writes:How do you deal with a breakup in which you know that your boyfriend is going to cry?I just know that things aren't working out with my boyfriend anymore. We've been together about a year and a half but I just don't feel the same about him. He wasn't the nicest guy at times and I feel that has led to me retracting my feelings sorta. It seems that there is no spark/passion left in it for me, he still feels it but I don't. I suggested a breakup a month ago and he started crying hysterically pleading with me to not end it to give it one more chance and that we could make it work. He has tried but it's just not working. When he goes to kiss me I don't really want to.I've been on the receiving end of a breakup and I know how painful it is. I just don't know how to do that to another person...especially when I know he's going to start crying again and stating that I'm the love of his life, he wants to marry me and have a future with me, that he doesn't know what he'll do without me and that he feels like he should just go crawl somewhere and die.HELP!!! How do I deal with his emotions? The last time I gave in cuz I couldn't bare to see him in such pain. My weakness is people crying and I just don't how I can stick to my guns. He's going to think I'm a horrible person and that I don't care but I don't know what else to do! I'm not happy anymore. I can say it to him that its not working...I'm strong..until the tears come. Then I just give in as always...I'm so wimpy with that stuff. I keep trying to think of how mean he has been sometimes (hides his female friends from me and lies cuz he says "ill get mad" but I'm like if it's innocent why do u have to hide it and lie?") but even that doesn't work. How do i toughen up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): Sometimes you just have to be cruel to be kind.If you're not happy and he thinks you are,that isnt fair on him.Just tell him how you feel.Yes he will be upset and start crying but he will have to get over you one day.The longer you leave it the worse it will get.
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