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writes:Hi I am going to start online dating . I don’t want to have sex before marriage . I am not virgin I was married before.Mostly folks respect your decision ( not sex before marriage) if you are virgin . If you are not virgin they don’t respect your views.How I could explain in my profile I don’t want sex before marriage. I don’t have issue to date holding hands , kiss each other etc... the only thing I can’t is sex or any blew job Please need adviceThanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all helpful advices. You guys are blessings
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reader, femmenoir  +, writes (17 November 2017):
 Just be open and honest about your preferences from the beginning, because you don't want to end up with somebody who "assumes" you're open to sex before marriage and then finds out from you that you're not.
Imagine if you spent some time with a guy and you fell for this guy, but he then ends the relationship, because he's wanting sex before marriage, which to be honest, is much more common with modern men (and women!).
This way, you won't get the wrong men bothering you and you'll get to connect with the few men who are on the same page as you and yes, they do exist.
It's nice that you wish to wait until you meet your Mr Right.
Good luck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 November 2017):
 Just be honest and write on your profile that you are looking for marriage and that you don't believe in sex before marriage. It really is as simple as that. If you are honest it will stop a lot off time wasters.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (15 November 2017):
 I'd put it in your messages to each other pre-date, to avoid time wasting. Just say you only partake in sexual intimacy when married.
Waiting a few dates before saying it isn't likely to waste time because most people don't want what you want and you're better off only going on dates with those who do.
A guy I was with for two years was open on his profile about something that would put a lot of close-minded people off, but I didn't care, so it deterred those who weren't interested because of that and also gave me a heads up, to avoid any awkwardness. I actually did the same, so it worked out well and we knew we were compatible from the beginning. You should too - either on your profile or in private messages before arranging a first date.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (15 November 2017):
Honestly, is say it in your profile. I know that for myself and many other people that's a deal breaker, so going on a few dates and potentially liking someone only to find that out would be both disappointing and a waste of time.
Be straightforward in your ad and you'll get fewer dates but with better matches.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 November 2017):
 I think you should wait with saying this until you are on a date. Or even better, wait until you have been on a few dates. In this time you will get to know the person, and the topic will come up in a more natural way.
In your profile you should instead write that you believe in the institution of marriage and that marriage is what you are looking for when dating. Once this is in the open, the rest will come by itself once you are on a date.
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