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26-29,
*ongdistancelove
writes:Ok so ive been seeing this guy for awhile now and i really like him (actually i think i might love him) but the problem is we met online. i know he isnt some 40 or 50 year old creeper because we skype, talk on the phone, and text everyday. So the thing is like i said we met onlyne. He lives in Illinois and i live in California. Also he's 19 almost 20, while i just turn 16 last month. like i said i think i love him. and we do plan to be together after i get out of skool. so anyway i want to tell my mom about us but i dont know how. Firstly how do you explain that you've been having a relationship with a 19 year old who lives in another state? Secondly, whenever it comes to me showing any signs of growing up she jokes and mocks it also she feels the need to tell all her friends and my aunts about it. i know she means no harm but it really is annoying. So how do i explain to her that i have serious feelings for a older guy who i've havent met in person yet?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2012): I strongly disagree with So_Very_Confused. I'm in the same type of relationship myself. I love him, and I know he loves me too. Of course things can change over time, but if you really believe in it, I think it's worth to try.
If you love him and if he have told you he's in love with you too, I'm sure you can work things out. Not knowing how to tell you mom isn't equal to not being able to love a person just because you have not met yet - at least that is what I think. But then again, people all have different ways of thinking. But what i do agree with So_Very_confused is; yes, start mentioning that you got a new friend from another state. At first. After some time, if you are 100% sure that he isn't just bullshiting you, you can (if you are confident in your mom)tell her that you have grown to like the person. Even if she doesn't understand your feelings you have to be strong. 'Cause if it's true love it doesn't matter what your mom thinks. Prove to her that what you have is real. This is my best advice. I hope it helps. Stay strong.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 January 2012):
 Do you think that maybe not knowing how to tell your mom is because you know it’s insane to
a. be in love with someone you have never met
b. be planning a life with someone you never met?
I have to tell you if I was your mom and you came to me I would pooh-pooh it and ‘humor you” with “of course you do etc”
I would also be VERY concerned about your safety…. For many many reasons.
When you skyp do you do video/voice chat or just voice or video with text?
Why is an almost 20 something man interested in a 16 year old girl?
Are you telling him things or showing him things you don’t want mom to know about?
Let her know you have a friend… mention him every couple of days casually… give her the idea he’s a friend… no need to let her know of the other plans till you are over 18 and graduated…. I mean seriously things could change in a few months or weeks you have no idea…
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