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writes: Hey my friend smells of BO.I don't want to hurt her feelings but I reaaly want to tell her, because she's my friend and I care for her a lot. I don't want things to change between us if I tell her this. I don't want it to be awkward. Could you please suggest a nicer and politer way to tell her? Maybe without her knowing that it's me who said it. I thought about writing in a piece of paper and slip it in her bag. Do you think it's good or should I do it in another way? Mystic Flower Reply to this Question
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reader, Commonsense  +, writes (30 July 2008):
"Dude, you stink, heres some anti-persperant, take a shower ffs."
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2007): When her birthday comes along make sure it is packed with goodies that smell nice. I don't know if i could tell anyone outright that they smelt. Tread carefully, it's not a nice thing to be told.
Take care
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reader, advicegirl  +, writes (16 January 2007):
 hiyabuy your mate some really nice body spray or somthing like that and hopefully she will wear it!!
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (16 January 2007):
I agree 100% with what vina 101 said! Buy her some sort of nice smelly gift pack as a present. And hopefully she will try it.
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (16 January 2007):
 The annonymous paper note in her bag is ok but make sure she doesn't recognise our handwritting!
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reader, Clarey +, writes (16 January 2007):
 I had to do this once. What I did, was told my friend that I wanted her to tell me if my breath ever smelled or if I was sweaty because I could not bear hearing from someone else first. I asked her if I should do the same for her and she said yes. I told her a story about my own Mum, who was taken by surprise during puberty because she suddenly started sweating more, which is only natural. Some horrible boy told her she smelled! I don't know how old you are, but it is valid if you are a teenager.
I told her one day that I felt a bit sweaty and that I was afraid that we both were smelling! Discuss how you can combat this (wash and deodorant every day) and buy some deodorant together. Moan about hormones, it is those that gears up the sweat along with spots and other things. If she asks you whether she smells because she gets the hint that you are working up to, you could say that you have noticed that she is a bit musky sometimes,as you have found yourself and you feel that you both need to start wearing deodorant. Good luck, this is a very difficult one.
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (16 January 2007):
Buy her a massive gift basket full of cosmetic stuff and really nice soaps and deoderants. Wrap it up nice and say "I was thinking of you so I got you this, I got one for myself at home coz it was on special offer - buy two get one half price. So here you go. Enjoy!" Then the next day: "Hey! Have you used any of that stuff I gave you. OMG it is so nice. I tried one of the soaps this morning they're really good. You should try it. Trust me you'll love it. You did like it didn't you?." I hope that will help. If not you're gonna have to go with plan B. Telling her plain and simple. Pull her to one side and say "Look you're my friend and I don't like hearing people say bad stuff about you and as your friend I think it is my duty to tell you the truth. I couldn't help but notice you've got a bit of BO and I was wondering if maybe you could do something about it." Maybe your friend just hasn't noticed and doesn't think she has BO. But if you two are close enough as friends she shouldn't feel too offended by it.
Good luck.
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