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writes:I am a female of 24 years I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 years six months now, the problem is that I have lost interest in him and have met someone I think I love, and he on the other hand wants to get married, how do I tell him all this without hurting him? Reply to this Question
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reader, Bickycat  +, writes (1 June 2010):
Agreed with all the above. Be honest with him. It'll will hurt, but not as much as if if you try to make excuses in the hope of letting him down gently. Yes, honesty, in this case, is the best policy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2010): There is no way you can avoid hurting him as you say. It is part of life, dating and relationships I'm afraid. You must be honest with him, but be sensitive as much as you can. Not all relationships can or will end in walking down the aisle, the fairy tale dream. It is these unrealistic expectations we put on ourselves, that lead us to sometimes marry the wrong people.
Boyfriend/girlfriend means just that - it is not a commitment for life, so be honest and let him go, he will recover, and will go on to find someone, as you will, that will be right for you both. Six years of happiness, savour that, now it's time to move on.
Good luck!
Jilly x
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (1 June 2010):
 There is no way you can avoid causing him pain. You should just be as clear and honest as you can be. Like removing a bandaid. He'll recover. Keep as your mind set that he will actually be better off without you and he'll be able to now find someone who will actually return his love. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2010): He wants to get married, you want to dump him and you're looking for a way to do this without hurting him?
He's going to be hurt... so forget the zero hurt scenario.
You need to be honest and direct, tell him you're not in love with him and that you're breaking up and that you each need to go find your soul mates. Then cut contact with him so he can begin his healing process. The worst thing you can do is allow him to hang on to you and 'hope' that you'll change your mind.
Once you've taken this step do NOT move backwards, don't try to be a friend, don't call him - as this will be cruel, as he's likely to see it as 'hope' that you'll get back together.
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (1 June 2010):
 You can't help how you feel. Just say to him that you've met someone else and things might be coming to an end soon. Circumstances can make life difficult for everyone. He might thank you for it one day. He might find someone who he loves too.
I hope this advice helps.
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