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writes:Hi..am going to meet my boyfriend with a surprise visit in coming few days...and the guy i'll be dating is very busy these dayz...and don't even have time to sit and rest even...however..i know once i reach him....he won't deny for a date with me.atleast for few hoursBut the thing is I'm really desparate in havin sex with him..a protected sex ofcourse....i really don't have any idea how to say him about it..and how to talk to him regarding it...is there any indirect way of asking him about it.?coz am really shy in that chapter...and as i never had it b4...am totally confused how to start up with. If possible i would also lyk to know wat wud be the right place to have it...itz not a correct place in his home newya bcoz of his mum n dad nearby.But inspite of these things...if possible i would also love to know wat if i watch a blue film with me...will that make him come forward...even for a person lyk him..who really don't have it b4 marriage?? I really don't understand how to make him come out of his busy routine so that i can make him relax and can spend with him a little time in ma bed.How to work it out.any advice wud be appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): I honestly hope your surprise visit does not turn out a big surprise to you!
Best advice is not to preplan to much regarding the sex,this is something that will happen naturally, and if you are so adamint to have it, talk to the guy about how you feel,do it discreetly, by maybe suggesting that you would like to take the relationship to another level. This way you will not feel totally rejected if he should want to wait for marriage or untill later.
Best wishes!
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reader, Fiona xxx  +, writes (6 June 2008):
 I am sure if you even hint at the topic, he will be keen. In fact it is normally the lad who suggests sex in the first place.
Just mention it directly.
You are bound to be a bit nervous.
Like anything else you are nervous even though you know you will be fine.
How long have you been together? Are you ready?
If so you will find an opportunity some place some how.
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (6 June 2008):
 The best way to talk to your boyfriend about sex is to do it directly. Set aside a time, sit him down and just come out with it. It may be a little nerve-wracking but it's something all couples have to do sooner or later.
Simply ask him what his feelings are regarding sex and your relationship. Tell him you'd like to, and ask him what he thinks. You never know, he could be as keen as you.
Parents always seem to be an issue when it comes to the location - no-one likes to be caught in the act! Perhaps book a hotel room every now and then, or of course, go old school and do it in the car (I wouldn't recommend this until you're more experienced).
A busy routine is always a pain when it comes to relationships. See if he can take a little time off to spend with you - book in some 'together time' a few weeks in advance. Try and do this at least once a month. Maybe take a holiday together or something.
Good luck to you.
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