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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hiya, I have never been to confident with my life and never really mixed at school. But now that I've left I joined a college and at first I got on great but since everyone else has been starting to get to know each other better I've sort of started to go quiet and I sometimes have thought that they think I'm stupid by the way they are with me. Well I want to know what I can do to join in more, I'm not as outgoing as the others and a bit different but in particular there's a lad I like in my class and I really want to get to know him better and become good friends with him but yet again he's stopped talking to me but I've always thought that he's liked me because he used to stare at me a lot and at one point moved seats to one near me. Now I really wanna get to know him better but I just don't know what to say, since I'm a bit scared of what to say. He never has time to do anything outside of college since he's so busy so I really need ways of getting to know him better whilst I'm around the others. I have thought before he can be a bit shy but there's people in that class that he's really starting to get along with (that are very different from me) and I suppose I get a bit jealous because I want to become just as good friends with him. I really do like him but I just don't know what to do. We aren't the closest of friends(the group) and I don't tend to tell them a lot of things so I don't think telling anyone how I feel about him is a good idea. Please can you help me? It's getting to the point where I'm feeling so uncomfortable around them and just dread getting laughed at. I seriously like him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): Hi,It seems to me you are trying too hard. Try to relax a bit around these friends, especailly the lad you like. If you relax around people and look like you are having fun they are more likely to enjoy your company and want to spend time with you. It can seem difficult to relax and not try so hard, but believe me it works. Hope this helps and good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): It seems to me that you are worrying too much about these friends. you need to relax a little around them and just be yourself. you really can't force people to like and be good friends with you. just relax and enjoy being around them. Then they will see you relax and hopefully you will send them messages that you are fun and you will get the right result. Hope everything goes ok for you.
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