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writes:I need your help agony aunts! Very soon, I'm going to be in an LDR with my fiance of 2 years. He plans to move where I am as soon as he finishes up his bachelors, which is about another 2 years. It doesn't seem like his family agrees with this decision, as there are few career opportunities where I'll be. I'm also a very jealous/insecure person by nature(nothing having to do with my fiance). Anyone have any advice on how to survive an LDR... :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2012): I am in a LDR, firstly I suggest you get some therapy to work on your insecurities for your own sake. LDR's are very hard, and insecurities make it even harder. You have to have a lot of trust, as most of the time all you have is talking to each other, the rest of the time you have to continue leading your life without your partner there. You need a lot of trust of your partner, and know that he does love you.That being said, communictaion is the key to making work. You both need to be honest with each other about how your feeling, keep in contact, make date nights where you can watch the same movie on dvd at the same time and then can talk about it. If you have a webcam skype together, and maybe organise to ahve dinner at the same time together whilst on camera. These are things me and my LDR do, it's not the same as having him there of course, but it is still nice and makes us feel a little closer to each other. Just keep talking and be honest with each other. Also spend time your not talking to him to send time with friends and family, take up a hobby to occupy your time, it helps a lot. I hope this helps, Good Luck.
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