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writes: PLese help, how the hell do I stop being so obssessive?? Im constantly thinking about my boyfriend, what he said, what he meant, pschyo-analysing it, worrying about it, worrying why he hasnt texted, called....will he dump me, what should I do to stop him.... I am going mad arent I????? Please someone help me!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2006): Hi there SHANDYPOP is completely right in what she says. Im going through the exact same thing as you except its not my boyfriend (althought I would like him to be) he is my male friend and I find that if he doesnt, text or ring or reply to my texts straight away i get in a right state, get all anxious, I panic etc. Unfortunately guys start to pick up on it because you start to act different towards them and become too intense and they get scared and back off more. The best thing you can do is focus on something else when you dont see him, backing off normally results in them coming forward. Im also taking SHANDYPOP's advice to because with me I have pushed my friend too far but from what you have said its not too late for you. Good luck and keep your chin up flower x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2006): Try and take a step back, feel cool about it all. When he does phone or text then be chuffed about it but don't sit back and expect them. Keep busy. I know i've been there. I used to get really mopy if i didn't get a text. When he got out of bed, i couldn't understand why it took him two hours to sent me a basic simple text. Then i cut out the texts i sent, didn't phone straight away and i found him sending text before i had even got out of bed! It's hard at first, try and get yourself busy at work or into a hobby, listening to some music or even reading book, but don't dedicate all of your brain time and energy to him. He won't dump you. But I do know where you are coming from and it's not easy at first but now i am an expert. If i get a text great, it not oh who cares, it makes it more special when i see him. Take care xx
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