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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hey there. i was just wondering how do i show a guy that his actions are insensitive and upsetting without appearing nagging and annoying, i've tried the silent treatment or purposely pulling away from him, but it didn't work, cause it ended up with me giving in and cuddling up with him back cause i can't really stay mad at someone for long periods of time.
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reader, happytochat +, writes (21 July 2008):
Its ok to tell a guy that you are upset. Its not nagging! Just calmly tell him how you feel and give him examples of what types of behaviour make you feel that way. Tell him you arent telling him to put him down or critize, but just so he knows and can consider your feelings next time.
If he is a decent guy he will be sensitive to your feelings, he will understand and make effort to change whatever he does that upsets you.
Any decent guy will be glad that you can tell him how you feel. Im sure that if he wants you to be happy, then he will want to know when he upsets you so he cant stop whatever it is.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (21 July 2008):
It's not nagging to tell someone they have upset you.
It's not nagging to be upset with some one until they make it up to you.
The silent treatment and other mind-game style subtle hints do not work. Men are not subtle.
Tell him her has upset you and make him make it up to you. If he keeps upsetting you then leave as he obviously doesn't care. He may realise what he's lost and come after you and actually make effort to change. He may not and if he doesn't then he wasn't worth it anyway.
Good Luck!! xx
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