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male
age
36-40,
*alluke
writes:Hello,About 4 years ago I started dating this girl and we were in a relationship until this November, when we broke up. We left in good terms and I still talk to her occasionally.At the beginning of our relationship she introduced me to one of her friends, who totally blew me away: I was (and still am) extremely attracted by her, she is sexy, I love her character (super out going, always smiling) and we found out we had several things in common (we listen to the same music, play the same sports and root for the same teams)...She also confessed to my ex-girlfriend that she also thinks I'm attractive.I didn't do anything because I loved my ex and didn't want to hurt her, but now that our relationship is over I would like to reconnect with her friend (she is single).The problem is, I've only spoken to her 5 or 6 times in these 4 years, and the last time I saw her it was about 6 months ago.Apart from the occasional 'like' or comments on some Facebook pictures, we haven't talked in a long time.How do I contact her or ask her out without looking weird?Do you think this would hurt my ex girlfriend (she might think I wanted her friend even during our relationship)?Thanks for your advice!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (14 January 2014):
 I don't think you would look weird asking her out. The only thorn is her friendship with your Ex. If your break up was a mutual one with no hard feelings then you have a chance that she and your Ex will still be able to remain friends if she dates you. You won't know until you talk to the girl, call her and ask her out for coffee or lunch. Sink or swim.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (14 January 2014):
 You and this qirl are single so go for it or spend the rest of your regretting never asking her out. Its better to try and fail than, fail before even trying.
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reader, Brokenv +, writes (13 January 2014):
You are single and so is she. Ask her out for a coffee. Keep the date simple.
Of course your ex will be jealous....not hurt. You guys broke up for a reason. The gal you are interested in, she will make the decision whether she wants to cross that road with your ex.
Just do it!
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