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writes: Something is bothering me a LOT. (we're both 16 years old)My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a month and it's going nowhere (or maybe just really really slow). He goes to a school that my best friend attends and thats how I met him. However, we don't see each other often. It's more like once every 2 weeks. So far, I feel that I am the more dominant in this relationship. (Me being his first gf and vice versa) He's really shy and I guess he doesn't know how to make the first moves. Which I don't blame him for. I want this relationship to work, but how can I make it go...further, and more interesting? I really try and do my best to make every moment w/ him the best I can and hope that everything I do won't be regretted. I've gone...3 days w/o talking to him (which to me is like forever, but I want HIM to call me). Guess sometimes men could be oblivious. Should I just confront him and tell him what I want from him....this is so hard and I'm not going to break it off w/ him for it may dreadfully hurt him (he's more emotionally sensitive than i am) . We both love each other soooooooo muchh, and yet...no one is stepping on the gas pedal, doh' honeymoon stage possibly? thanks!
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (6 March 2006):
 Slow is good, what on earth is the hurry, please just be patient with him and with yourself.
He may just not be a good communicator, you said yourself that he is really shy and you are his first girlfriend.
Boys do not mature as fast as girls, I know as I have a 16 year old who took a girl to the zoo, then rang me three hours later to collect them, when I asked why they wanted to come home so early, he replied "we have seen the animals now and I want to go out skating with my mate before dark".
The girlfriend needed to be very patient and understanding with him and consequently he is now not in a relationship despite telling her and her him that they loved each other.
My point is that taking things slow is good, this way you get to know each other, you ringing him is good as he is shy and not as mature as you so may not think to ring you or have the confidence.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (6 March 2006):
 okay what ever you do its too soon to be rushing into anything. your only a month into your first relationship there is no need to rush. he may not be ready to move on to the next step in your relationship...all you need to do is speak to him. but you shouldnt want your relationship to move so quickly just because everone else is. you should it because you wanna be close...because you want it. this is your first relationship take your time...theres no need to rush...you only get one first.
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