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writes:I meet a man at my previous job. He was a senior manager. There was an instant attraction as we met. It has been growing for a year and a half now. It took a while for me to notice the attraction.Once when in a meeting with him he told me he had been off work as he had had the "snip". I was taken aback as to why he told me this as I felt it was a very personal thing. He clearly felt very comfortable with me to tell me this.We both have children. I do not want any more. We are both about to come out of unhealthy relationships.When I left I gave him a heart felt card as he has done a lot for me while I was there. I told him how much I appreciated his help and warmth and kindness. I asked him to keep in touch and ended with a kiss (which I hoped would have hinted my feelings).His body language is a dead give away - the way he stares at me and my body, the questions he asks me, I make him laugh as he does me. He is a really great guy.Since I have left he has e-mailed me twice. First time he asked how I was and about a recent interview I had been to. Each time he has kept it very professional. I did hint that I did not feel comfortable e-mailing him at work. He said he "can not cope with e-mails" which i did not understand, he said his PA is discrete.I want to move this relationship on but do not want to make the move as I want to be clear that he is really interested. the trouble is that he tried to find out about me and I would not talk about my private life as I did not feel ready at the time and in his office did not feel right. Now I am not seeing him as we no longer work together. He has told me that me knows I am basically the main bread winner in my family so I feel he has worked out my situation.I am sure he will keep in touch but I want to meet away from his work place.Do you think it would be appropriate to suggest this when I next speak to him. I have hinted to him that I would like him to mentor me as I am having problems moving on in my career - this would allow an opportunity to spend time together and see where it goes from there.I have not been able to stop thinking about this guy - its driving me nuts. Ironically, the person who has replaced me has the same name as me so it must me hard for him to stop thinking about me.Any constructive comments will be appreciated. Thank You
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 October 2010):
 Yes exactly we only live it once, so live it happy instead of in regret :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you. Its the basic obvious steps I need to take. We only live once. Its best to live than not lived at all.
Thanks again.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (2 October 2010):
Firstly before you make a move get out of the relationship you are currently in as am sure you dont want to be branded a cheat, if you are unhappy then finish with the man you are with then you are free to make your move.
Once you have done this then tell him the next time how you feel and take it from there good luck.
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